She’d always been a good girl. Except when it came to him. She’d done all the “bad girl” things with him, and they had been glorious. Until he’d vanished the next morning. No note. No exchanged numbers. She hadn’t even known his name… Until she’d walked into her office and found out she had to work with him. Side by side. Every single day with Sebastian Henley—the sexy, gorgeous, irresistible, disappearing man from that night. And the worst part? He still made her want to do bad, bad things.
"A must-read for any student—present or former—stuck in hookup culture’s pressure to put out." —Ana Valens, Bitch Offering invaluable insights for students, parents, and educators, Lisa Wade analyzes the mixed messages of hookup culture on today’s college campuses within the history of sexuality, the evolution of higher education, and the unfinished feminist revolution. She draws on broad, original, insightful research to explore a challenging emotional landscape, full of opportunities for self-definition but also the risks of isolation, unequal pleasure, competition for status, and sexual violence. Accessible and open-minded, compassionate and honest, American Hookup explains where we are and how we got here, asking, “Where do we go from here?”
Hookup culture dominates the lives of college students today, and many feel great pressure to engage in it. But how do these expectations affect students themselves? Freitas uses students' own testimonies to define hookup culture and propose ways of opting out.
Bad Hookup She’d always been a good girl. Except when it came to him. She’d done all the “bad girl” things with him, and they had been glorious. Until he’d vanished the next morning. No note. No exchanged numbers. She hadn’t even known his name… Until she’d walked into her office and found out she had to work with him. Side by side. Every single day with Sebastian Henley—the sexy, gorgeous, irresistible, disappearing man from that night. And the worst part? He still made her want to do bad, bad things. Bad Divorce He was back. With the news that their divorce had never been finalized. As in she was still freaking married. And worse? Luke was determined to prove that ending their short-lived marriage had been a mistake. Well, for Bec, one broken heart was enough, and she wasn’t in the market to give Luke another chance at shattering her all over again. He needed to sign the divorce papers and leave her to her life. Only…Luke wouldn’t sign. And maybe…she didn’t want to either. Bad Fiancé Sera used to believe in happily ever afters. Now she knew they weren’t for her. For Seraphina Delgado, finding a man who loved her for who she was inside, rather than simply appreciating her outward appearance, had proved to be impossible. Until Tate. He was more interested in software than her cup size. He didn’t care about her looks or her boobs, only her abilities as a real estate agent. But then he showed up in her office with a crazy proposition. One so crazy, it almost made sense. He wanted them to get married. Even crazier? She said yes. Bad Text: A never before released novella It came in the middle of the night. Totally her fault, as she should have had her phone on Do Not Disturb. But she hadn’t, and that buzz-buzz had woken her. Then she’d seen the picture and…wow. She couldn’t let that pass her by. She’d just had to respond and then had stayed up texting back and forth with the man who’d had the great abs and the spectacular di— Cough. Sense of humor. She meant the spectacular sense of humor. But as the sun had risen and as she’d had to force her bleary self out of bed, she’d set the text chain aside and gotten on with her day. Until she’d walked out of her apartment, turned toward the elevator, and saw… Him.
Features a new Afterword for this edition. A controversial look at today's sexual hook-up culture, and "[a] book...you won't stop talking about."-Patricia Cornwell From the front lines of today's sexual battlefield comes an eye-opening examination of the hookup culture, seen through the personal experiences of the teenage girls and young women who live it-and who are left unprepared for its consequences. The Pulitzer Prize-winning author presents a disturbing and enlightening indictment of the hookup culture, the social forces that contribute to it, and what can be done to change it.
Relating Difficulty offers insight into the nature of difficulty in relationships across a broad range of human experience. Whether dealing with in-laws or ex-spouses, long-distance relationships or power and status in the workplace, difficulty is an all too common feature of daily life. Relating Difficulty brings the academic understanding of relational processes to the everyday problems people face at home and at work. These essays represent a groundbreaking collection of the multidisciplinary conceptual and empirical work that currently exists on the topic. Along with issues such as chronic illness and money problems, contributors investigate contexts of relational difficulty ranging from everyday gossip, the workplace and shyness to more dangerous sexual “hookups” and partner abuse. Drawing on evidence presented in the volume, editors D. Charles Kirkpatrick, Steve Duck, and Megan K. Foley explain how relational problems do not emerge solely from individuals or even from the relationship itself. Instead, they arise from triangles of connection and negotiation between relational partners, contexts, and outsiders. The volume challenges the simple notion that relating difficulty is just about problems with "difficult people" and offers some genuinely novel insights into a familiar everyday experience. This exceptional volume is essential reading for practitioners, researchers and students of relationships across a wide range of disciplines as well as anyone wanting greater understanding of relational functioning in everyday life and at work.
Bad Night Stand I’d brought him home thinking that for once in my life I would live a little. Then he’d walked out, and I’d chalked the experience up to a bad one-night stand. Now weeks later I was puking my guts up and had a pink stick with a plus sign on it declaring my future. And because my life was my life, I was pregnant, alone, and starting a new job. And whose company was I working for? Jordan. Jordan O’Keith. The man who’d I’d brought home that night. The man whose baby was currently residing in my belly. The man I hadn’t recognized… And the man who was my father’s arch enemy. Bad Breakup Twice he’d broken her. CeCe was supposed to be traveling the world, taking the vacation she had always dreamed of, living the life she’d always hoped for. Not pushing away an ex who was determined to have her again. Not finding it harder and harder to resist Colin at every turn. But she was. Finding it harder to turn him away, harder to steel her heart against him. Especially when she found out exactly why the past had torn them apart. Because just like before she was falling hard. Falling fast. Falling deep. Bad Husband He was her mortal enemy in the business world. But in the real world? He had a soft spot…and it was only for her. And when sexy, smart, and oftentimes cold Clay Steele showed that soft part to her, Heather forgot to be the smart, calculated businesswoman she was. In fact, Heather got stupid. And stupid had her waking up hungover and naked in Clay’s bed. With a giant diamond ring. On her left hand. Oh hell— What had she done? Bad Date: A Never Before Released Novella Blind dates were the absolute worst. Awkward, filled to the brim with small talk, and they never, ever worked out. Kay knew all that. Yet for some reason, she still had agreed to let Heather set her up. And when the date came, Kay found herself stood up. Yup, that was just perfect. Her night was shot, she was behind on her word count, but then…she quite literally ran into tall, dark, and handsome outside the restaurant. One look at him and Kay thought that perhaps her night might be salvaged after all. Until she discovered tall, dark, and handsome was a jerk. Until she discovered that jerk was her missing blind date—her rude and insufferable date who blew right by her as if she didn’t exist. What. The. Hell?
Breaking through many misconceptions about casual sex on college campuses, Hooking Up is the first book to understand the new sexual culture on its own terms, with vivid real-life stories of young men and women as they navigate the newest sexual revolution.
Hookup culture has become widespread on college campuses, and Catholic colleges are no exception. Indeed, despite the fact that most students on Catholic campuses report being unhappy with casual sexual encounters, most studies have found no difference between Catholic colleges and their secular counterparts when it comes to hooking up. Drawing on a survey of over 1000 students from 26 institutions, as well as in-depth interviews, Jason King argues that religious culture on Catholic campuses can, in fact, have an impact on the school's hookup culture, but when it comes to how that relationship works: it's complicated. In Faith with Benefits, King shows the complex way these dynamics play out at Catholic colleges and universities. There is no straightforward relationship between orthodoxy and hookup culture--some of the schools with the weakest Catholic identities also have weaker hookup cultures. And not all students define the culture in the same way. Some see a hookup as just a casual encounter, where others see it as a gateway to a relationship. Faith with Benefits gives voice to students, revealing how their faith, the faith of their friends, and the institutional structures of their campus give rise to different hookup cultures. In doing so, King addresses the questions of students who don't know where to turn for practical guidance on how to navigate ever-shifting campus cultures, reconciling their faith with their relationships. Students, parents, faculty, administrators-indeed, anyone who cares about Catholic teenagers and young adults-will find much of value in this book.
Bad Boyfriend Kelsey Scott was done with men. She certainly didn’t want anything to do with Tanner—the only man who had ever managed to weasel his way into her heart. And by typical male progression, the only man to break it. But then she and Tanner were paired up as bridesmaid and groomsman at her brother's wedding, and suddenly, she found it hard to remember all her steadfast rules. Found it hard to remember her broken heart. Because she was falling for Tanner all over again. Bad Blind Date Trixie Donovan had left California for bigger and better things. Now she was back, and she’d become her half-sister Heather’s pet project. Which meant that—after a sickening amount of pestering—Trix gave in, agreeing to a single blind date. A blind date who turned out to be Jet. The doctor she’d worked with. The man she’d fallen desperately in love with. The one who had decimated her heart. And the one who transformed an unwanted, but tolerable night out into the blind date from hell. Because apparently Jet had decided his biggest regret was letting her go. Bad Wedding The white dress. The diamond ring. The full church. The…missing groom. Molly Miller had become a cliché when Jackson Davis left her at the altar, but she’d crawled back from the heartbreak and embarrassment and was living her dream of running a successful bakery in San Francisco. Well, good riddance. She didn’t need Jackson, or any other man in her life. He’d gone and that was that. Until one early morning Jackson walked through the front door of her restaurant. And her whole world imploded. Bad Marriage—A Never Before Released Billionaire’s Club Novella Abby and Jordan were blissfully married. Or supposed to be anyway. But three kids, copious poopy diapers, and minimal sleep meant that she and Jordan were well past the honeymoon stage. And she didn’t know how to get that bliss back. Luckily, Jordan had a plan.
