This insightful guide examines the characteristics of successful marriages, the warning signs of those ending in divorce, and identifies key issues couples should consider but often overlook when considering marriage. By working through the guide, couples can develop a realistic view of their potential partnership and learn strategies for building compatibility.
All too often, relationships that seem destined for eternal success fall victim to diverging interests, conflicting goals, or clashing values. What seems like the perfect love affair -- the kind that will lead to a deep and abiding companionship throughout a long and happy life -- unfortunately often ends in divorce.How do we know if we're destined for happily ever after? There's no simple test, but you can begin by asking the series of questions in Are We Compatible? Author Jeffrey A. Hoffman, Ph.D., gives couples a concrete way to evaluate their relationship and consider important issues before they take that big step. Some of these questions you can openly discuss with your partner; some questions you can only ask yourself. Are We Compatible? helps couples explore their feelings about everything from sex to God to money, and share these sentiments with their partner. The pages of Are We Compatible? are filled with plenty of room to record answers to these thought-provoking questions: -- How much time would you like to spend with your own family? Your partner's family? -- What are your feelings about religion and spirituality? -- Would you like to have children? -- How are you at sharing the bathroom with someone? -- What is it that you like most about each other? -- What makes you jealous? What makes you angry? -- How important is romance to you? -- Which are your least favorite household chores?Questions like these, along with illustrative anecdotes of other couples, create ample opportunities for couples to examine the most important aspects of their relationship. From mutual interests to relating to others to communication, couples will discover thatAre We Compatible? is an invaluable way to spark conversation so that they can determine where they meet -- and don't -- on critical topics.
“Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip.” —The New York Times We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle. Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
As seen on The TODAY Show! “A godsend to anyone searching for, but struggling to find, true love in their lives.” —Kristin Neff, PhD, author of Self-Compassion "Empowering and compassionate, and its lessons are universal." —Publishers Weekly Real love starts with you. In order to attract a life partner and build a healthy intimate relationship, you must first become a good partner to yourself. This book offers twenty invaluable lessons that will help you explore and commit to your own emotional and psychological well-being so you can be ready, resilient, and confident in love. Many of us enter into romantic relationships full of expectation and hope, only to be sorely disappointed by the realization that the partner we’ve selected is a flawed human being with their own neuroses, history, and desires. Most relationships end because one or both people haven’t done the internal work necessary to develop self-awareness and take responsibility for their own experiences. We’ve all heard “You can’t love anyone unless you love yourself,” but amid life’s distractions and the myth of perfect, romantic love, how exactly do you do that? In Loving Bravely, psychologist, professor and relationship expert Alexandra H. Solomon introduces the idea of relational self-awareness, encouraging you to explore your personal history to gain an understanding of your own relational patterns, as well as your strengths and weaknesses in relationships. By doing so, you’ll learn what relationships actually require, beyond the fairytale notions of romance. And by maintaining a steady but gentle focus on yourself, you’ll build the best possible foundation for making a loving connection. By understanding your past relationship experiences, cultivating a strong sense of self-awareness, and determining what it is you really want in a romantic partner—you’ll be ready to find the healthy, lasting love your heart desires.
A leading artificial intelligence researcher lays out a new approach to AI that will enable people to coexist successfully with increasingly intelligent machines.
Are the political ideals of liberty and equality compatible? This question is of central and continuing importance in political philosophy, moral philosophy, and welfare economics. In this book, two distinguished philosophers take up the debate. Jan Narveson argues that a political ideal of negative liberty is incompatible with any substantive ideal of equality, while James P. Sterba argues that Narveson's own ideal of negative liberty is compatible, and in fact leads to the requirements of a substantive ideal of equality. Of course, they cannot both be right. Thus, the details of their arguments about the political ideal of negative liberty and its requirements will determine which of them is right. Engagingly and accessibly written, their debate will be of value to all who are interested in the central issue of what are the practical requirements of a political ideal of liberty.
Relationships. What makes them work, what gets in the way and how do you create a lasting and meaningful relationship? Whatever background or culture you come from, we all need to feel loved and accepted.
Severing a cherished relationship is one of the most painful experiences in life—and cutting those emotional ties to a loved one can feel almost like ending an addiction. Up till now, people recovering from other problems were able to get real help—like AA and rehab—while those struggling in the aftermath of traumatic breaks dealt with platitudes and friends insisting they should "get over it already." But now Exaholics Anonymous treats getting over an ex like kicking a chemical habit. Written by counselor and therapist Dr. Lisa Bobby, Exaholics offers meaningful support and advice to anyone trapped in the obsessive pain of a broken, or dying, attachment. She helps the brokenhearted heal, showing them, on a deep level, how to develop a conceptual framework for their experience, understand the emotional processes at work inside themselves, find the path to recovery, and free themselves of shame, injured ego, and remorse. In-depth case studies of others' journeys will illuminate the way to future happiness.
YOU DESERVE AN AMAZING MAN! So, where is he? Does he even exist? I can tell you that he does and that he is out there, chosen by God Himself and waiting for you to experience an amazing relationship with him. But there are things to consider in order to recognize and receive this man, and that’s where The Man God Has for You: 7 Traits to Help You Determine Your Life Partner comes in. Inside these pages is a guide not just to help you determine if the man of your interest is the right one, but also to help you get to the underlying issues that may prevent you from recognizing if he is truly the one for you. This guide will tackle 3 key points: - Address the misconception of not enough men - Give 7 essential traits to determine if the man you seek is the one God intended for you - Provide guidance on how to heal from your past and be open to the possibilities of embracing love This is not another “how to get a man” guide. This book goes deeper to remove any excess baggage, as well as assess the ways you’ve gone about seeking the man who is for you. A compliment to GOD Where’s My Boaz, this dating and relationship book will help you prepare and position yourself to receive the man who is waiting to receive you. Don't get caught up in a relationship with the man God never intended you to be with…read The Man God Has for You now and get ready to recognize and receive the right one.
Several years ago, two of my colleagues and I had the opportunity to interview Fritz Heider-perhaps the most influential theorist in the field of social psychology (Harvey, Ickes, & Kidd, 1976). During our interview, Heider affirmed a belief that had guided his career since the 1920s, the belief that the study of human relationships is the most important task in which social scientists can engage. Although many social scientists would profess to share this belief, it is nonetheless true that the study of human relationships has been one of the most neglected tasks in the history of the social sciences-including psychology. What Heider found in the 1920s-that most psychologists acknowledged the importance of studying human relationships but at the same time tended to focus their own research on more "tractable" topics such as memory and cognition-is still very much evident in the 1980s. Even within the more specific domain of social psychology, a majority of researchers still choose to address those hybrid topics ("social cognition," "social categorization and stereotyping," "person memory," etc. ) that relate most directly to traditional areas of psychological research. Still other researchers, while choosing to study such important interpersonal phenomena as altruism, aggression, conflict, and interpersonal attraction, tend to focus so exclusively on these isolated and abstracted phenomena that they fail to provide a more inclusive view of the relationships in which these phenomena occur.
