When it comes to bullying, there is a vast amount of information written on this topic. Unfortunately most of the research and advice has been written with regards to bullying amongst children, within the school playground, etc. Unfortunately many bullies don't grow out of this mind-set and as such, end up as adult bullies and unfortunately, there is not much advice on how to deal with an adult bully! In Beat The Bully, you will learn what exactly a bully is and discover a simple test to see whether you are being bullied or not. Yet most importantly, you will discover the techniques that you can put in place to stop the bullying once and for all, no matter what type of bully is targeting you. Even if you don't believe that you are being targeted by a bully, the tools in this book will provide you with the resources so that if you ever are, you will not be powerless.
An explosion of research on bullying has raised our collective awareness of the serious impacts it can have on children. No longer do we accept it as an innocuous rite of passage, just a part of growing up that we grin and bear and grow out of later. But do we grow out of it, or are there lingering effects that last well beyond the school playgrounds and lunchrooms? Is bullying traumatic and, if so, does it last into adult life? Are there life-long consequences or are the effects pretty much shed as people grow? Are some of us more resilient than others? Are there any positive or unexpected outcomes as a result of being bullied (or having been a bully) as a child? In an effort to answer these questions, Bullying Scars describes childhood bullying from the vantage point of those victims, bullies, and bystanders who are now adults; the book discusses how lives have been changed, and explores the range of reactions adults exhibit.The research gathered for this book, through interviews with over 800 people, points out that even adult decision-making is often altered by the victimization they experience as children at the hands of peers, siblings, parents, or educators. Written in an engaging and accessible style that draws heavily from the rich interview data that deLara has collected, this book will be of interest to anyone struggling with the lingering effects of being bullied. Additionally, it is highly relevant to mental health professionals -- counselors, therapists, social workers, clinical psychologists -- working with clients who are dealing with these issues.
This book translates a decade of research about adult bullying at work. It can help targets understand and feel better about their situations as they come to see that bullying is never their fault. They will discover they are not alone: Sadly, many others also suffer at the hands of aggressors at work. Contents include studies on prevalence of bullying in the US, how targets fight back, how to repair the trauma and stigma of being targeted, and many other topics. The book is an outstanding resource to read before and use as evidence during grievances, complaints, or concerns with upper-management and HR professionals because the contents are based on peer-reviewed scientific research. -- From publisher s description.
Peter Randall's first book, Adult Bullying, was one of the first books to examine the various situations in which adult bullying occurs, the forms it takes, and how it can be identified and dealt with more efficiently, particularly in workplace settings. Since that title was published, there has been more awareness of the extent of adult bullying. In Bullying in Adulthood: Assessing the Bullies and their Victims, other aspects of the problem are examined, such as research and clinical issues, and in particular, assessment of bullies and victims and the background factors to such behaviour. This has become increasingly important as the problem begins to be appreciated and addressed within therapeutic, social and legal arenas. A number of strategies are suggested both for dealing with bullying and victim behaviour and for monitoring situations, for example by employers to see if problems improve. To assist in this process Peter Randall proposes a model of adult bullying which enables clinicians and human resources specialists to determine which factors are influential in individual cases. This book will appeal to practitioners and researchers in clinical/counselling psychology, counsellors, managers/human resources staff and social workers.
An introduction to bullying behaviors among older adults -- Bullying among older adults : what do we know? -- Understanding older individuals who bully and those who are bullied -- A framework for anti-bullying interventions -- Foundational approaches for individuals who bully -- Foundational approaches for individuals who are bullied -- Bullying assessment and interventions / by Eleanor Feldman Barbera -- Empathy training : the different like me culture / by Alyse November -- Social wellness initiatives to reduce bullying among older adults / by Katherine Parker Cardinal -- Future directions : policy imperatives to address bullying among older adults / by Alyse November
Bullying has long been tolerated as a rite of passage among children and adolescents. There is an implication that individuals who are bullied must have "asked for" this type of treatment, or deserved it. Sometimes, even the child who is bullied begins to internalize this idea. For many years, there has been a general acceptance and collective shrug when it comes to a child or adolescent with greater social capital or power pushing around a child perceived as subordinate. But bullying is not developmentally appropriate; it should not be considered a normal part of the typical social grouping that occurs throughout a child's life. Although bullying behavior endures through generations, the milieu is changing. Historically, bulling has occurred at school, the physical setting in which most of childhood is centered and the primary source for peer group formation. In recent years, however, the physical setting is not the only place bullying is occurring. Technology allows for an entirely new type of digital electronic aggression, cyberbullying, which takes place through chat rooms, instant messaging, social media, and other forms of digital electronic communication. Composition of peer groups, shifting demographics, changing societal norms, and modern technology are contextual factors that must be considered to understand and effectively react to bullying in the United States. Youth are embedded in multiple contexts and each of these contexts interacts with individual characteristics of youth in ways that either exacerbate or attenuate the association between these individual characteristics and bullying perpetration or victimization. Recognizing that bullying behavior is a major public health problem that demands the concerted and coordinated time and attention of parents, educators and school administrators, health care providers, policy makers, families, and others concerned with the care of children, this report evaluates the state of the science on biological and psychosocial consequences of peer victimization and the risk and protective factors that either increase or decrease peer victimization behavior and consequences.
Sometimes they really are out to get you. If you have been the target of group bullying in your workplace, school, church or community, you are not alone. Mobbing is a patterned and predictable form of group aggression that happens when someone in a position of leadership sets out to eliminate someone and persuades the rest of the group to go along. In Mobbed! What to Do When They Really Are Out to Get You, anthropologist Janice Harper explains how and why mobbing happens and suggests steps you can take to protect yourself once it's underway. Drawing on research in animal behavior, group psychology, gossip and false memory, Dr. Harper demonstrates how current approaches to eradicating "bullies" in the workplace are more likely to backfire than help the mobbing target. In this book, she presents an entirely new way to understand collective human aggression and heal from its devastating impacts.
Who knew wearing a red hat could cause such trouble? "My Red Hat" is a modern anti-bullying story with a twist. For Piper and her father Rick, what was a fun-filled day, and an ordinary trip to the store changes quickly when a bully is triggered by the sight of matching hats. They have to think fast and act smart. Else, they stand a chance of being the subject of the latest viral video to be passed around online. Intended to be a work of fiction, this type of behavior between adults bullying children is an increasingly modern reality. Using a layered approach to storytelling, "My Red Hat" is designed to provide discussion opportunities between children and parents. As serious as it is entertaining, this anti-bullying children's book serves as an early detection if a child is being bullied, has been a witness to others being bullied, or if the child has been taking on the role of a bully. We live in a very digital world, and the rules have changed. One wrong move in public can be a big problem, edited down to a few seconds of video, with no context of what happened before or after. We owe it to children to teach smart approaches to navigate the world. We owe it to adults to remind them to take the high road, control their impulses, and be a role model. Too many adults are seeking their 15 minutes of fame, even if it's at the expense of a child. We hope this type of behavior between adults bullying children is a modern fade. Until that changes, it is essential to ensure kids are equipped with the skills to recognize bullies living in bubbles, along with acquiring the confidence to make smart decisions on what to do next. Using a layered approach to storytelling, "My Red Hat" is an entertaining take, on a serious topic. Designed to provide discussion opportunities between children and adults, this anti-bullying children's book serves as an early detection if a child is being bullied, has been a witness to others being bullied, or if the child has been taking on the role of a bully. We owe it to children to teach smart approaches to navigate the world. We owe it to adults to remind them to take the high road, control their impulses, and be a role model. Too many adults are seeking their 15 minutes of fame, even if it's at the expense of a child. The bully in our story is a work of fiction. However, stories of adult bullies trying to trap and record others in an effort to shame and post a video online seem to be a modern trend that repeats itself every few weeks. One wrong move in public can be a big problem, edited down to a few seconds of video, with no context of what happened before or after. The way the story uses imagery is covert. Some will see this as political humor. That's not the intent. Regardless of your political affiliation, most adults can find value in using a red hat as an example. They either view the red hat as a metaphor to not bully a person because of his/her appearance or as a more direct example that highlights modern concerns that parents have towards bullies in the digital age. While many adults will enjoy the storyline, ultimately children are the audience. Young children are taught about the importance of tolerance towards others different than them. In early reviews, children have universally seen the bully as a villain with behavior that is inappropriate. And while parents and other family members of these children may have a very different view of the bully, and at the extreme end some will believe the young girl was 'asking for it,' it gives us great hope that children reject the bully, and side with Piper for her freedom to wear the red hat of her choice. Children see Piper's choice to wear a red hat as something that should be respected. We agree 100%.
The frequency and severity of personal harrassment is a problem that is only just beginning to be uncovered. In Adult Bullying, psychologist Peter Randall uses the voices of both bullies and victims to reveal the misery that many adults endure. He describes the processes that turn child bullies into adult bullies, often aware of their behaviour but unable to stop it. The workplace and the neighbourhood replace the playground, but the tactics and patterns of reward remain the same. The adult victim has little or no more power than the child counterpart, often changing jobs to escape the attentions of the bully. Similarly, managers like teachers, often fail to tackle the complaints of the victim with the seriousness the problem deserves, preferring to believe that the fuss is unwarranted. Adult Bullying will be welcomed by managers, counsellors, social workers and anyone who has experienced personal harrassment. Effective ways to deal with bullying in the community and the workplace are discussed, with particular attention given to the implications for managers and employees.
Our New World of Adult Bullies connects the dots to show how bullies at all levels of society follow the same predictable patterns of behavior. Bullies exist everywhere: families, workplaces, neighborhoods and communities, politics and government, and organizations of all types and sizes. And in a media landscape where conflict, crisis, chaos, and fear reign supreme, every day we see the worst behavior of celebrities, politicians, and other public figures who serve as role models. Winners and losers. Friends and enemies. Heroes and villains. People with high-conflict personalities think almost solely in these extremes. They regularly express unmanaged emotions, routinely blame others, and do harmful things that 90% of people would never do. Bullies share these characteristics, plus a drive to dominate or destroy their victims. But all bullies act in the same highly predictable patterns, regardless of their demographics and situation. By focusing on the ten hidden powers bullies employ—from their unrestrained nature and bully story to manipulating emotions and playing the victim—Bill Eddy unpacks the way bullies rely on primitive emotions and nonverbal behavior. He helps readers spot these behaviors and offers practical actions before they become immobilized by helplessness, blame, and shame. In today’s world, we all may have an adult bully in our lives sooner or later. For anyone who has a bully in their life now, for professionals who counsel victims of bullying, and for anyone who is concerned about the fraying of our culture and society, this book gives effective strategies to prevent bullies from taking over. Eddy’s six-step approach includes useful advice on how to: Recognize the patterns of bully behavior Pull the plug on the bully’s story Set limits with credible threats Impose serious consequences Communicate effectively about bullies to others Stand strong with others against bullies Our New World of Adult Bullies takes a closer look at the dangerous behavior of bullies and how to stop the behavior before it starts.
