American culture is more sexually liberal than ever. But compared to men, women's sexual pleasure has not grown: Up to 40 percent of American women experience the sexual malaise clinically known as low sexual desire. Between this low desire, muted pleasure, and experiencing sex in terms of labor rather than of lust, women by the millions are dissatisfied with their erotic lives. For too long, this deficit has been explained in terms of women's biology, stress, and age. In The Pleasure Gap, Katherine Rowland rejects the idea that women should settle for diminished pleasure; instead, she argues women should take inequality in the bedroom as seriously as we take it in the workplace and understand its causes and effects. Drawing on extensive research and interviews with more than one hundred women and dozens of sexual health professionals, Rowland shows that the pleasure gap is neither medical malady nor psychological condition but rather a result of our culture's troubled relationship with women's sexual expression. This provocative exploration of modern sexuality makes a case for closing the gap for good.
A FRANK, FUNNY AND EMPOWERING CELEBRATION OF FEMALE PLEASURE An orgasm will help you sleep and keep you looking younger, it doesn’t cost money and isn’t a scarce resource. So why is it that, like the pay gap, there is an ‘orgasm gap’ between women and men? The Hotbed Collective began life as a podcast with a mission ‘to make life better one orgasm at a time’. Their debut book, More Orgasms Please is an open, honest and at moments hilarious dive into all aspects of sex for women. It covers feminist porn, body image, menopause and much more. Like the podcast that inspired it, More Orgasms Please is like the best sort of chat between friends: punchy and playful, normalising and educating. It is an eye-opening read that puts women’s bodies and our right to pleasure firmly on the map. Think of it as ‘Couch to 5k’ ... for orgasms.
'There are some fantastic books out there that men should read ... It really worked' Coleen Nolan, ITV's Loose WomenDid you know that the clitoris has 8000 nerve endings, twice as many as the penis? Here is everything you've wondered about the female orgasm and how to make it happen. A witty, well-researched and revealing guide to giving your lover an orgasm every time. More than just foreplay, Ian Kerner argues that oral sex is the key to a great sex life for both partners. Short sections cover philosophy, technique, step-by-step instructions and detailed anatomical information, essential to both beginners and experienced lovers.'It's time to close the sex gap and create a level playing field in the exchange of pleasure, and cunnilingus is far more than just a means for achieving this noble end; it's the cornerstone of a new sexual paradigm, one that exuberantly extols a shared experience of pleasure, intimacy, respect and contentment. It's also one of the greatest gifts of love a man can bestow upon a woman.' Ian Kerner
Written in the tone of a supportive and savvy friend who just happens to be a top sex expert, this invaluable guide explores: Redefining pleasure: why the quest for female orgasms is overhyped - and how to relax and truly enjoy sex, with or without them Discovering the female body's pleasure zones Communicating with a partner about what feels good (and what doesn't) Exercising and eating to improve your sex life Sex positions 101...and 201 A lifetime of pleasure: great sex after pregnancy, after fifty, and more
Want to Really Satisfy a Woman? Then read on...Based on empirical evidence, women in same sex encounters report more pleasure and satisfaction. According to the groundbreaking Shere Hite report on Female Sexuality (described as one of the 100 key books of our time by the Times) 52% of women in the UK ALWAYS orgasm when with a woman!! In Australia and New Zealand that's even higher! 60 % and 61% respectively. Furthermore when asked 'are you curious or would you like to try a sexual relationship with a woman'. . ...71% of UK women said yes! And in Australia and New Zealand its 78% and 80%.Furthermore ancient texts advocate the immense sexual potential of women, in fact in 15AD a spiritual leader in the East declared that when God was giving out sexual desire one tenth went to men, and a whopping nine tenths went to women! Through it all, one truth has remained - women inherently know how to please and satisfy women in a way that, until now, has received little recognition. The Kama Sutra, Ananga Ranga, The Perfumed Garden, and The Tao have all touched upon these areas, but none have fully explored the process and learning to be gained by women who love women.Intense desire, coupled with a not so fulfilling bedroom life, means a tide of sexual frustration sweeping many women!However the situation is not as bleak as it seems. In discussions with numerous bisexual and lesbian women a number of factors have been isolated which may hold the key to bringing pleasure and satisfaction to many women.- Develop a great appreciation of your partners body. Large, small, simply show your appreciation in words or touch, make her feel truly admired. - Facilitate relaxation. In other words take the time to relax the lady in your life - talk, give her a massage, rub her hands, play some music. Remember relaxation precedes arousal - therefore the more relaxed the lady, the greater will be her arousal, and response to your touch.- Increase your foreplay repertoire! For many couples there seem to be degree of focus on two strategic points. By expanding your vision to include often neglected areas such as the neck, back, forehead, eyes, hips, hands - you will be able to provide greater stimulation to her body, and increase arousal. Just make sure you keep this up for at least 20 - 30 minutes to create the desired effect.- Holistic seduction : Vary the stimulation when seducing your love object. Find out her likes and dislikes, interests, hobbies, and talk about them. Make her really feel listened to.. Now use your body language, words, questions, and atmosphere to create the seduction. Your body language should be open and relaxed; your words gentle and pleasing to the mind; the tone of your voice - deep, gentle and steady; slowly steer your line of questioning to sensual topics - i.e. her favorite food, types of massage she likes, the forms of art she admires. This will stimulate her inherent sensuality.- Holistic lovemaking : involve her mind, body and soul. The central idea here is to fundamentally create a sense of connection. By creating this feeling, you will be involving her mind, body and soul in the process, and thereby increase her response to you and her pleasure. Tantric exercise such as simply looking into each other's eyes - creates an intense bond, and fires neurons in the brain responsible for making us feel grounded, protected, and valued. Lye face to face, or sit face to face and simply gaze into each other's eyes. A variation of this is to sit, lie, or stand face to face (with eyes closed and foreheads touching) and simply feel the connection. Once you are familiar with these exercises try co-ordinating your breathing, to create an even greater feeling of connection.- Discover her body, find out her preferences! Is she a G-Spot or clitoral woman? Taylor you positions to give her - her favorite stimulation. As a general rule - positions which stimulate the clitoris are usually face to face, and those tha
The Lola film is a distinct subgenre of the woman's film in which woman's claim to pleasure is entertained without recourse to the figure of the femme fatale. Lola embodies a recognizable set of characteristics through which over time a select group of directors, actors, and audiences have responded in ways that do not succumb to the imperatives of gender. There are over thirty-five Lola films, starting with Marlene Dietrich in The Blue Angel: many are German, others are French, American, British, Italian, and Spanish, but her claim has also resonated in Argentina, China, Egypt, Mexico, Thailand, and the Philippines. Lola can be working class, lesbian, transgender, ethnic, suburban, or any combination. This book examines Lola as a specific and enduring aspect of the early twentieth-century "new woman": woman's forthright claim to pleasure on her own terms, liberated, if only as a cinematic fantasy, from the usual constraints of sex and gender.
Like men, women also can ejaculate, enhancing and intensifying their sexual pleasure. In an open, positive style, Deborah Sundahl presents information about female ejaculation including scientific findings, anatomical illustrations, historical accounts, a chapter on how men can help their female partners to ejaculate, and women's and men's experiences collected during the past two decades.
Featuring +60 of the most important and well-recognized female-identifying artists, writers and creative thinkers of the last century as they explore the idea of pleasure - and empowerment - in all its forms. Iconic and never-before-published works by Georgia O'Keeffe, Louise Bourgeois, Judy Chicago, Tracey Emin, Jenny Holzer, Marlene Dumas and Alice Neel run alongside contributions from photographers like Cindy Sherman, Carrie Mae Weems, Marilyn Minter and Nan Goldin, as well as by emerging talent such as Mickalene Thomas, Martine Gutierrez, Harley Weir and Nina Chanel Abney, as well as an exclusive coloring book by RIP Bambi. With forewords by New York Times best-selling authors Erica Jong and Roxane Gaye, and original essays and texts by Stoya, Erika Lust, Pussy Riot and the late cult author, Kathy Acker, among others.
Written by a male Sexologist/Adult Sexuality Educator and a femal Relationship and Sexuality Therapist, this adult self-help book is for women who have never experienced orgasm, for women whose orgasms have been difficult to reach, for those women wishing for orgasms that are more frequent and intense. Based on over 45 years of combined clinical experience, the authors address issues of early messages about sex, body image, self-exploration, the role of fantasy, effective modes of communication, issues of menopause, the sexual concerns of women with disabilities, and much much more. The book contains an extensive Appendix of 'homework assignments', self-awareness exercises, and a comprehensive list of written, visual and online resources.
