Parents will benefit from this invaluable guide on how siblings interact in today's world, and sometimes cross the line. By reading this book, parents will learn how to identify and prevent abusive behavior, and know when to intervene. the author brings together his many years of study and experience to show how to break the cycle of violence. Is what happens in your family just normal sibling rivalry or could it be called sibling abuse? This instructive guide will help you answer this question and help you break any cycle of violence, verbal or physical. the practical suggestions in this book will protect your children now, and help them become responsible adults. You will learn: How to identify abusive behavior How to prevent abuse in your home How to know when to intervene Vernon R. Wiehe, Ph.D. is a professor in the College of Social Work at the University of Kentucky. He is the author of over fifty articles in social science journals as well as numerous books. Dr. Wiehe has lectured extensively on the subject of family violence to audiences in the United States and abroad. He has appeared on numerous television and radio talk shows discussing the subject of family relationships.
With increased media attention, issues of family violence have been steadily moving out of the shadows and into the arenas of research, prevention, intervention, and public awareness. However, sibling abuseùlargely unrecognized and unaddressedùremains behind the closed doors of "family privacy." Often excused by parents as "kids will be kids" behavior, the symptoms of this form of abuse go undetected and its devastating effects on the victim are ignored. Sibling Abuse, Second Edition provides insight into this form of abuse and carefully describes the range of abusive behaviors perpetrated among siblings. Along with personal accounts by adult survivors, this completely updated book describes appropriate steps for parents to take in order to evaluate and respond to their childrenÆs abusive interactions. A new chapter on current techniques of assessment and treatment also helps therapists or counselors work to end this problem. Lively yet reinforced by the latest research, Sibling Abuse, Second Edition offers comprehensive coverage of a subject not reflected much in the literatureùyet. Written for human services professionals, WieheÆs book will also make an excellent supplement for advanced students in social work, sociology, psychology, nursing, education, and family studies. Parents may also want to inform themselves by reading this book.
Sibling Abuse Trauma will enhance your knowledge of assessment and clinical intervention strategies for treating intersibling abuse trauma in children, families, and adults. This informative book features: an overview of sibling relationship development, sibling physical assault, incest, and psychological maltreatment individual and systemic risk factors gender differences traumatic effects clinical case studies and interviews a sibling abuse assessment schedule specific sibling-oriented interventions Due to the lack of research specifically focused on sibling abuse issues, there is a gap in the training and education of abuse trauma professionals. Sibling Abuse Trauma is an innovative book that focuses not only on sibling incest, but also on sibling physical assault and psychological maltreatment from a survivor’s perspective. The authors utilize critical and empirical findings and rich case examples to illustrate how sibling abuse affects individual and family development, making further research and education in this area imperative. Whether you incorporate these findings into your clinical practice or become inspired to conduct your own research, Sibling Abuse Trauma will improve your understanding of how to treat and evaluate individuals and families with sibling abuse-related concerns.
Sibling Abuse, Second Edition provides insight into this form of abuse and carefully describes the range of abusive behaviors perpetrated among siblings. Along with personal accounts by adult survivors, this completely updated book describes appropriate steps for parents to take in order to evaluate and respond to their children's abusive interactions. A new chapter on current techniques of assessment and treatment also helps therapists or counselors work to end this problem. Very readable yet reinforced by the latest research, Sibling Abuse, Second Edition will make an excellent supplement for advanced students in social work, sociology, psychology, nursing, education, and family studies. Lay readers looking for a resource for understanding this underexposed form of abuse will also want to turn to this book.
Within every community in America, sibling sexual abuse can be found hiding in families who feel ashamed and lost about how to confront this problem. The cryptic nature of sibling sexual abuse preys about the vulnerable and its horrible effects feedback upon our tendency to ignore this problem. Sibling sexual abuse leaves no bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the target of the abuse. Sibling Sexual Abuse walks the reader through the journey from the shocking disclosure of abuse occurring between sibling down a path of healing for families and communities. Sibling Sexual Abuse also addresses why this is important for every person in every community needs to get involved and participate in an open conversation about the dangers of sibling sexual abuse and what can be done to encourage hope and healing for these families. Sibling sexual abuse torments families of ever kind in America today. It does not care about a family's race, income level, religion, or political preference it is damaging families with a tsunami like force yet no one is talking about it. Sibling sexual abuse is America's silent epidemic because survivors and families are afraid of what would happen if they share their stories. So they are forced to suffer in silence as a result the devastating effects of sibling sexual abuse continue to mount, with a causality list that grows at a dizziness pace. This frank and thorough book written by a therapist who specializes in working with sibling sexual abuse in families describes what families need to do at each step in their journey.Sibling Sexual Abuse walks the reader through the journey from the shocking disclosure of sexual abuse within the family and describes what steps can be taken in order for families to heal. Sibling Sexual Abuse also addresses why it is important for communities to get involved and participate in a national discourse about the dangers of sibling sexual abuse and what can be done to support survivors and families and how they can heal from such a shattering and painful event.
A groundbreaking guide to raising responsible, capable, happy kids Based on the latest research on brain development and extensive clinical experience with parents, Dr. Laura Markham’s approach is as simple as it is effective. Her message: Fostering emotional connection with your child creates real and lasting change. When you have that vital connection, you don’t need to threaten, nag, plead, bribe—or even punish. This remarkable guide will help parents better understand their own emotions—and get them in check—so they can parent with healthy limits, empathy, and clear communication to raise a self-disciplined child. Step-by-step examples give solutions and kid-tested phrasing for parents of toddlers right through the elementary years. If you’re tired of power struggles, tantrums, and searching for the right “consequence,” look no further. You’re about to discover the practical tools you need to transform your parenting in a positive, proven way.
An honest and deeply moving debut memoir about a young woman’s battle with depression and how her dog saved her life A New York Times Bestseller “Dog Medicine simply has to be your next must-read.” —Cheryl Strayed At twenty-two, Julie Barton collapsed on her kitchen floor in Manhattan. She was one year out of college and severely depressed. Summoned by Julie’s incoherent phone call, her mother raced from Ohio to New York and took her home. Haunted by troubling childhood memories, Julie continued to sink into suicidal depression. Psychiatrists, therapists, and family tried to intervene, but nothing reached her until the day she decided to do one hopeful thing: adopt a Golden Retriever puppy she named Bunker. Dog Medicine captures the anguish of depression, the slow path to recovery, the beauty of forgiveness, and the astonishing ways animals can help heal even the most broken hearts and minds.
From leading researchers, this book presents important advances in understanding how growing up in a discordant family affects child adjustment, the factors that make certain children more vulnerable than others, and what can be done to help. It is a state-of-the-science follow-up to the authors' seminal earlier work, Children and Marital Conflict: The Impact of Family Dispute and Resolution. The volume presents a new conceptual framework that draws on current knowledge about family processes; parenting; attachment; and children's emotional, physiological, cognitive, and behavioral development. Innovative research methods are explained and promising directions for clinical practice with children and families are discussed.
When Nancy Kilgore was nine years old, her eleven-year-old sister Sherry led her into the scorching midday sun, tied her to a chair, and taped her eyelids to her eyebrows with electrical tape, leaving Nancy helpless for hours to stare into a blinding blue sky. For years, Sherry physically tortured her younger sister and threatened to kill her if the cruelty was revealed. Each time Nancy walked into her own bedroom she would have to repeat self-deprecating passwords: "I am ugly and stupid." "I am ugly, stupid, and no one loves me." "Please may I come in?" Girl in the Water details the most shuttering examples of sibling abuse, the untold secret in millions of homes. Each year, 19 million children are abused by their siblings and well over 80 million adults have suffered this type of abuse. With vivid imagery and heartbreaking accounts, Kilgore leads readers on a journey into the prison she was born into, where she is confronted with her childhood dreams, family bonds, coming of age in the shadow of terror, and the complex after-effects of bullying and sibling abuse that followed her into adulthood. Struggling to piece together her haunted past before it consumed her, Kilgore shares her inspiring metamorphosis and victorious battle from a fragile, shattered survivor to that of an eventual speaker and activist. Girl in the Water is the story of one woman, with a phoenix-like power, who came up against all odds and won. Her story will resonate with millions of adult sibling-abuse survivors who have never felt free to tell their stories . . . until now.
A self-help book based in science, the result of more than a decade of research, Daughter Detox offers the daughters of unloving mothers vital information, guidance, and real strategies for healing from childhood experiences, and building genuine self-esteem. Writer Peg Streep lays out seven distinct but interconnected stages on the path to reclaim your life from the effects of a toxic childhood: DISCOVERY, DISCERNMENT, DISTNGUISH, DISARM, RECLAIM, REDIRECT, and RECOVER. Each step is clearly explained, and richly detailed with the stories of other women, approaches drawn from psychology and other disciplines, and unique exercises. The book will help the reader tackle her own self-doubt and become consciously aware of how her mother's treatment continues to shape her behavior, even today. The message of the book is direct: What you experienced in childhood need not continue to hold you back in life. What was learned can be unlearned with effort. The book begins with DISCOVERY, opening up the reader's understanding of how she has been wounded and influenced by her mother's treatment. Recognizing the eight toxic maternal behaviors-dismissive, controlling, emotionally unavailable, unreliable, self-involved or narcissistic, combative, enmeshed, or role-reversed-lays the foundation for the daughter's awareness of how her way of looking at the world, connecting to others, and ability to manage stress were affected. DISCERNMENT delves into the patterns of relationship in her family of origin and how they played a part in her development, and then shifts to looking closely at how the daughter adapted to her treatment, either silencing or losing her true self in the process. Next up is DISTINGUISH, seeing how the behavioral patterns we learned in childhood animate all of our relationships in the present with lovers and spouses, relatives, friends, neighbors, and colleagues. The act of distinguishing allows us to see why so many of us end up in unsatisfying relationships, chose the wrong partners, or are unable to develop close friendships. Active recovery begins with DISARM as the daughter learns how to disconnect unconscious patterns of reaction and behavior and substitute actions that will foster the growth of self-esteem. Understanding the triggers that set us off, the cues that put us on the defensive, and the default positions of blaming ourselves and making excuses for other people's toxic behavior are addressed, as are unhealthy behaviors such as rumination, rejection sensitivity, and more. RECLAIM is the stage at which the reader begins to actively make new choices, preparing herself so that she can live the life she desires by seeing herself as having agency and being empowered. Making new choices and figuring out how to manage her relationship to her unloving or toxic mother is the focus of REDIRECT. There are stories to inspire and challenge your thinking, exercises that show you how to swap out self-criticism for self-compassion, guidance on how to use journaling as a tool of self-discovery and growth, and advice on goal setting.Finally, RECOVER challenges the reader to come up with a new definition of what it means to heal, suggests tools to overcome the obstacles she places in her own way, and strategies to become the best, most authentic version of herself.
