Mother Love/mother Hate
Mother Love/mother Hate

Author: Rozsika Parker

Publisher:

Published: 1995

Total Pages: 326

ISBN-13:

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"Many a loving mother has had fleeting feelings of hatred toward her children - the desire to hurl a howling baby out the window or to lock a teenager out of the house. In this provocative book, Rozsika Parker argues that these ambivalent feelings not only are common but can actually have a creative impact on mothering." "Mother Love/Mother Hate boldly illustrates how a mother's desire for devotion coexists with the impulse to hurt and desert. Parents will find Parker's insight into the conflicts that beset them illuminating and deeply reassuring. Reversing the conventional psychoanalytic approach, in which maternal ambivalence has been understood chiefly from the point of view of the child, this book gives precedence to the mother's perspective. Drawing on interviews with mothers, clinical material from her practice as a psychoanalytic psychotherapist, and a wide range of psychoanalytic and literary sources (including Virginia Woolf, Anne Tyler, Simone de Beauvoir, D. W. Winnicott, Melanie Klein, and John Bowlby), Parker explores experiences of maternal ambivalence in a culture painfully and profoundly uneasy about its very existence."--BOOK JACKET.Title Summary field provided by Blackwell North America, Inc. All Rights Reserved

The Mother I Hated to Love
The Mother I Hated to Love

Author: Joel J. Chery

Publisher: AuthorHouse

Published: 2007-09

Total Pages: 425

ISBN-13: 1434302180

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Since her early childhood, Angie McHall noticed that there was something different about her life; although she was surrounded by a father and a mother figure, there was really no one in the house to call mom and dad. Angie was fortunate enough to have in her life her nanny, Liz Santiago. This was the woman who ended up giving her unconditional love and affection, and who would become the only mother she ever had. As Angie grew older, she realized that she was the only person in that household of a different skin color. She would later discover that the couple with whom she had learned to share her space was, in fact, her natural parents, who had chosen to treat her as a perfect stranger, because they did not have much in common with her. Angie was lost; she was engulfed in a mystery that she simply could not comprehend. She was mesmerized by what she considered to be the strange circumstances of her existence. How did Angie happen to be black when the people responsible for her birth were white? She was determined to find the answer to that question, if there were one to be found. Upon her insistence, her nanny decided that she could no longer remain indifferent to her cries; so she promised Angie that she would do all she could to help find the truth that was kept hidden from her all of her life. Liz meant what she said. She was about to make good on her promise. The night before she was to travel to Florida, where Angie was attending school, for a face to face meeting during which she would reveal to Angie the mystery of Angie's life, she went to bed never to wake up again. Angie's hope was dashed. The only person on whom she counted to solve her life's mystery was gone. But was Liz's untimely death really an accident of nature, or part of a Machiavellian plan engineered by an invisible hand to keep Angie and, perhaps, her parents from finding the truth?

Mothers Who Can't Love
Mothers Who Can't Love

Author: Susan Forward

Publisher: Harper Collins

Published: 2013-10-01

Total Pages: 303

ISBN-13: 0062204351

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With Mothers Who Can't Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters, Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of the smash #1 bestseller Toxic Parents, offers a powerful look at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters—and provides clear, effective techniques for overcoming that painful legacy. In more than 35 years as a therapist, Forward has worked with large numbers of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role-reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect and abuse, these women are plagued by anxiety and depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence, and difficulties with trust. They doubt their worth, and even their ability to love. Forward examines the Narcissistic Mother, the Competitive Mother, the Overly Enmeshed mother, the Control Freak, Mothers who need Mothering, and mothers who abuse or fail to protect their daughters from abuse. Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can’t Love outlines the self-help techniques Forward has developed to transform the lives of her clients, showing women how to overcome the pain of childhood and how to act in their own best interests. Warm and compassionate, Mothers Who Can’t Love offers daughters the emotional support and tools they need to heal themselves and rebuild their confidence and self-respect.

Your Way There (to Being Fully Alive)
Your Way There (to Being Fully Alive)

Author: Gretta Keene

Publisher:

Published: 2022-05-10

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9781634895057

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"Reading this book is like spending a sunny afternoon on a porch with a patient friend . . . who also happens to know a lot about therapy." --Peter Blauner, New York Times best-selling author With memorable stories and 100+ full-color illustrations, this lighthearted psychology self-help book shares mindfulness and psychotherapy practices for living your best life. Between social distance and social media, meaningful connection in the 21st century is complicated--not just with others, but with ourselves too. With decades of experience in psychotherapy, Gretta Keene warmly introduces positive psychology tools for elevating relationships, navigating challenges, and savoring the joy of being alive. After all, like weather, life happens. You can't change the weather--but you can learn how to change your response. Paired with whimsical artwork by William Murray, the friendly language of Your Way There makes concepts like "reparenting" and "new neural pathways" feel not just approachable, but possible. Inside this guide on how to live a meaningful life, discover how to: transform your mind and change oh well to now what?, recognize your defensive "bodyguards" and relieve them of their duties, stop having the same old fight and stay connected when things get bumpy, and use awareness-boosting tools to reclaim your agency so life doesn't just "happen to you." Full of stories that speak to the heart, Your Way There equips readers with the tools and know-how to manage life's more complex situations with wisdom, compassionate mind training, and even vital play. A warm addition to the world of happiness self-help, this book pairs the uplifting encouragement of Matt Haig's The Comfort Book with the science-based approach of titles like Unwinding Anxiety and Stop Overthinking. Whether you're already on your self-improvement journey or are "just looking" into therapy, life isn't about arriving at a destination. It's about Your Way There. So may you find your way and learn to thrive, Hopeful, awake, alive while you're alive. "An owner's manual for becoming a more connected and contented human being." --Peg Tyre, Pulitzer-Prize-winning journalist and New York Times best-selling author

Friendship--It's Complicated
Friendship--It's Complicated

Author: Andi Andrew

Publisher: Baker Books

Published: 2021-10-05

Total Pages: 211

ISBN-13: 1493432826

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Too often our friendships with other women can be marked by drama, competition, betrayal, and unforgiveness. As women, we can cause one another deep pain, creating wounds in need of healing. But we were made for connection and healthy friendships with other women to cheer each other on and fulfill our God-breathed purpose--together. Through vulnerable personal stories laden with joy, heartache, mistakes, and lessons learned, Andi invites you on a journey of navigating the complications that can come in friendships with other women. With practical and biblical applications throughout, this book will empower you to do the work by first facing yourself and untangling the mess, then seeking reconciliation for genuine connection, and building authentic friendships, even when it's been painful or complicated in the past.

Mothers-in-law and Daughters-in-law
Mothers-in-law and Daughters-in-law

Author: Susan Shapiro Barash

Publisher:

Published: 2001

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9780882822068

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It's one of the oldest triangles: mother-in-law, daughter-in-law and the son/husband trapped in between. Now, Susan Barash gives readers the tools to better understand the insecurities, generational jealousies and power struggles that are inherent in these relationships. Combining candid accounts from real mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law with sound advice from noted psychologists and counselors, Barash gives insight into this complex dynamic and shows readers how to create mutually independent and rewarding relationships that allow mothers-in-law, daughters-in-law and sons/husbands to grow.

Will I Ever be Good Enough?
Will I Ever be Good Enough?

Author: Karyl McBride

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

Published: 2008

Total Pages: 275

ISBN-13: 1416551328

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The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helpsyou recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.An estimated 1.5 million American women have narcissistic personality disorder, which makes them so insecure and overbearing, insensitive and domineering that they can psychologically damage their daughters for life. Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration.Herself the recovering daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. McBride includes her personal struggle, which adds a profound level of authority to her work, along with the perspectives of the hundreds of suffering daughters she's interviewed over the years. Their stories of how maternal abuse has manifested in their lives -- as well as how they have successfully overcome its effects -- show you that you're not alone and that you can take back your life and have the controlyouwant.Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:(1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life (2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into a strong desire to overachieve or a tendency to self-sabotage (3) Construct a step-by-step program to reclaim your life and enhance your sense of self, a process that includes creating a psychological separation from your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse. You will also learn how not to repeat your mother's mistakes with your own daughter.Warm and sympathetic, filled with the examples of women who have established healthy boundaries with their hurtful mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.

I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!
I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!

Author: Roni Cohen-Sandler

Publisher: Penguin

Published: 2000-03-01

Total Pages: 289

ISBN-13: 1101076984

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For mothers who are reeling from the rockiness of an ever-changing adolescent, or struggling with a relationship that's deteriorating by the day, here is encouragement, reassurance, and great advice. "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" discusses the social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues that can lead to mother-daughter conflicts. It offers illuminating and very recognizable case studies, and demonstrates how mother-daughter friction during adolescence can actually empower girls by teaching them invaluable skills. By providing mothers with much-needed encouragement and practical strategies to help their daughters grow into emotionally healthy and capable adults, "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" can transform the tempestuous teenage years into years of positive, enriching growth.

Grown and Flown
Grown and Flown

Author: Lisa Heffernan

Publisher: Flatiron Books

Published: 2019-09-03

Total Pages: 352

ISBN-13: 1250188954

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PARENTING NEVER ENDS. From the founders of the #1 site for parents of teens and young adults comes an essential guide for building strong relationships with your teens and preparing them to successfully launch into adulthood The high school and college years: an extended roller coaster of academics, friends, first loves, first break-ups, driver’s ed, jobs, and everything in between. Kids are constantly changing and how we parent them must change, too. But how do we stay close as a family as our lives move apart? Enter the co-founders of Grown and Flown, Lisa Heffernan and Mary Dell Harrington. In the midst of guiding their own kids through this transition, they launched what has become the largest website and online community for parents of fifteen to twenty-five year olds. Now they’ve compiled new takeaways and fresh insights from all that they’ve learned into this handy, must-have guide. Grown and Flown is a one-stop resource for parenting teenagers, leading up to—and through—high school and those first years of independence. It covers everything from the monumental (how to let your kids go) to the mundane (how to shop for a dorm room). Organized by topic—such as academics, anxiety and mental health, college life—it features a combination of stories, advice from professionals, and practical sidebars. Consider this your parenting lifeline: an easy-to-use manual that offers support and perspective. Grown and Flown is required reading for anyone looking to raise an adult with whom you have an enduring, profound connection.

Love, Hate and Other Filters
Love, Hate and Other Filters

Author: Samira Ahmed

Publisher: Soho Press

Published: 2018-01-16

Total Pages: 289

ISBN-13: 1616958480

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A NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER In this unforgettable debut novel, an Indian-American Muslim teen copes with Islamophobia, cultural divides among peers and parents, and a reality she can neither explain nor escape. Seventeen-year-old Maya Aziz is torn between worlds. There’s the proper one her parents expect for their good Indian daughter: attending a college close to their suburban Chicago home and being paired off with an older Muslim boy her mom deems “suitable.” And then there is the world of her dreams: going to film school and living in New York City—and pursuing a boy she’s known from afar since grade school. But in the aftermath of a horrific crime perpetrated hundreds of miles away, her life is turned upside down. The community she’s known since birth becomes unrecognizable; neighbors and classmates are consumed with fear, bigotry, and hatred. Ultimately, Maya must find the strength within to determine where she truly belongs.