"This successful guide has already helped many tens of thousands of readers understand and manage out-of-control anger in all its forms, from passive-aggression to all-out rage. Dr. Robert Nay presents an effective six-step program grounded in the proven techniques of cognitive-behavioral therapy. Self-quizzes and exercises show how to immediately recognize anger's triggers and early warning signs--and master cooling-off strategies that work in the heat of the moment. By learning specific ways to defuse conflict and express their feelings calmly, readers can put a lid on destructive anger while appropriately asserting their needs. The revised second edition includes a new chapter on resolving longstanding resentments, plus updated examples and resources"--
Has your relationship become a battlefield? Does your partner's sarcasm, irritability, or hostility make you wonder where the closeness and trust have gone—and how much more you can take? If anger is poisoning your relationship, this book offers a powerful antidote. Anger expert W. Robert Nay provides clear-cut, practical techniques for responding productively to inappropriate expressions of anger. Learn how anger gains a foothold in a couple's life, why your usual responses may unwittingly reward bad behavior, and how to stand up for yourself in ways that promote lasting change. Self-quizzes and step-by-step suggestions for dealing with different types of angry behavior are illustrated with true-to-life examples. Grounded in psychological science, the strategies in this book are simple yet surprisingly effective. Try them for yourself—and for the person you love. See also Dr. Nay's Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition, which helps you understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms, and The Anger Management Workbook: Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior, which builds core anger management skills using interactive exercises.
Out-of-control anger can destroy relationships, reputations, careers--even your health. But Dr. Robert Nay knows from extensive clinical experience that nearly anyone can learn to manage anger constructively--with enough practice. That's where this skillfully crafted workbook comes in. Using step-by-step learning exercises based on state-of-the-art knowledge about how the brain works, you can break old habits and replace them with more productive new ones. Dr. Nay's breakthrough STOP Method (Stop, Think, Objectify, and Plan) helps you: *Understand how anger flares up in your brain and body--and how you can lower the heat. *Identify the fleeting yet powerful thoughts that fuel destructive anger. *Replace aggression with appropriate assertiveness. *Effectively communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs. *Defuse conflicts and find "win-win" solutions. *See how the strategies are applied in a wealth of realistic scenarios. While working through the book's simple checklists and fill-in-the-blank forms (you can download and print additional copies as needed), you'll be building real skills to apply in everyday life. When anger gets in the way of your personal goals, this book provides a blueprint for change. See also Dr. Nay's Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition, which helps you understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms, and Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences.
Most people don't realize how angry they are. And yet anger destroys millions of lives every day because people aren't properly equipped to handle it. Author Janet Pfeiffer reveals that "The Secret Side of Anger" is that anger itself isn't the real issue. It is triggered by underlying emotions and problems that need to be addressed first. Cleverly employing a sarcastic, lighthearted approach, she provides simple yet effective techniques that anyone can use to confront and release angry feelings that might be on the verge of destroying lives. Janet learned the hard way. She wrote "The Secret Side of Anger" so you won't have to.
If You Have 30 Minutes, You Can Take Charge of Anger Anger fills us with adrenaline, but can also cloud our thinking--a combination that tends to get us into trouble. In 30-Minute Therapy for Anger, you'll learn proven-effective skills developed by therapists for helping people process and control their anger instead of lashing out at others. These conflict-defusing techniques will help you "cool down" anger so that you can respond calmly and effectively, even in life's most aggravating situations. Read just one or all three parts of this book: Get the basics Learn what you need to know to quickly get anger under control in the first sections of each chapter. Gain a deeper understanding Take it further and read the second sections of each chapter for skills that will help you make lasting changes. Then, go online to practice your skills Log on to find more exercises available online exclusively for 30-Minute Therapy for Anger readers.
Respected Christian Psychologist Helps Readers Find Relief from Emotional Pain Linda J. Solie, a psychologist who has been in private practice for more than 20 years, says everyone can benefit from taking charge of their emotional health. She gives readers the skills to take control of their thoughts and behaviors by first identifying the problem thinking that creates painful feelings and undesirable conduct. Then using a seven-step process, she helps them change their feelings and behavior. Throughout the book the seven steps are applied to a variety of situations, both short term--such as a distressing mood--and longer term, including significant longstanding emotional pain. Grounded in faith, the reader's relationship with Jesus is always central to the process. As William Backus pioneered a generation ago with Telling Yourself the Truth (more than 700,000 sold), Solie will reach thousands of readers who don't have easy access to mental health providers or can't afford them. Pastors and lay counselors will also find this an excellent resource to use and recommend.
CBT skills for coping with angry thoughts, expressing your emotions, and putting an end to angry outbursts—once and for all. Being a young man is tough, and you’re not always equipped to deal with the ongoing challenges of school, work, family, and relentless peer pressure. First of all, it’s not all your fault. Our society encourages boys to repress their emotions—both positive and negative. You may have been told to “suck it up,” or “just be a man.” But burying your emotions can make it extremely difficult to express yourself, be heard, and feel like your needs are being met. The result is a frustration that builds and boils over into anger. The good news is there’s an easy-to-learn method for managing your anger and expressing your emotions in a healthy way. Written by an expert in anger with decades of experience working with teens, this book provides you with the tools you need for effective anger management, as well as essential skills for getting in touch with and communicating your thoughts and feelings. You’ll learn to understand the emotions that trigger anger, build up your emotional vocabulary to better express your feelings, and focus on the positive. You’ll also discover anger-reduction techniques to stay cool when anger intensifies, so you put out the fire and get to a place of calm. This workbook is packed with tips and tricks to help you: Replace unhelpful anger with clear communication Break the habit of catastrophizing and personalizing Reduce the overwhelming physiological response of anger Channel the positive power of anger With the right tools, you can take charge of your anger—and your life. This workbook will show you how. In these increasingly challenging times, kids and teens need mental health resources more than ever. With more than 1.6 million copies sold worldwide, Instant Help Books are easy to use, proven-effective, and recommended by therapists.
This wonderful and engaging 1st book in a trilogy that includes Steps and Stones and Peace, and Bugs and Understanding, gives children and caregivers a concrete practice for dealing with anger and other difficult emotions. In Anh’s Anger, five-year-old Anh becomes enraged when his grandfather asks him to stop playing and come to the dinner table. The grandfather helps Anh fully experience all stages of anger by suggesting that he go to his room and, "sit with his anger." The story unfolds when Anh discovers what it means to sit with his anger. He comes to know his anger in the first person as his anger comes to life in full color and personality. Anh and his anger work through feelings together with humor and honesty to find a way to constructively release their thoughts and emotions and to reach resolve with Anh’s grandfather. The story is beautifully illustrated with handmade collages by New York artist and childrens book illustrator Christiane Kromer. Each collage is a mix of paper, acrylic, and cardboard, and found materials. The materials reflect the connection between the characters and their environment and are indicative of the wide range of emotions that come together in the story. Anh’s Anger teaches children that it is okay to feel angry, and shows the technique, often used by child therapists, of externalizing the emotion. Through taking time to "sit’ with his anger, a young child is able to see his anger and talk to it and together they move through the journey of experiencing the different stages of anger until the feeling subsides and finally resolve. Anh’s Anger differs significantly from other books on anger resolution techniques in showing that the child is able to talk about what transpired and accept responsibility for hurtful things that he may have said or done. The author’s intention is to help parents understand that there is an alternative to "time out’s" as a means of helping children to express themselves when feeling angry, while providing children with a mechanism for internal dialogue during a "time out" or when "sitting" with their anger. Through reading the story, children will learn to acknowledge anger when it arises, understand the cause of their anger, and ultimately feel safe expressing themselves and accepting accountability for their actions when appropriate. By learning these skills, children, will grow comfortable with them and carry them into adulthood with ease and confidence.
Kids need help learning how to manage their anger. Blending solid information and sound advice with humor and lively illustrations, these anger-management tips guide kids to understand that anger is normal and to learn they can express it in healthy ways. The book teaches them how to recognize anger in themselves and others, how to handle situations and emotions (loneliness, guilt, frustration, fear) that lead to or mask anger, and how to deal with the anger they feel. This revised edition addresses children’s exposure to increased societal violence and includes discussion and examples of anger related to texting and social media. Young readers learn that cruelty and violence are not acceptable and there are safer, more positive ways to resolve conflicts. They also discover what to do when people around them are angry, how to get help, and how to locate other resources when they need more support.
In this rhyming story, Jackson gets upset and doesn't understand how his emotions are controlling his behavior. Through colorful illustrations and rhythmic rhymes, he learns coping mechanisms on how to deal with big emotions like anger. Does your child get upset easily? Developing tools that help you cope with everyday struggles can lead to a calmer well-being. "I Choose to Calm My Anger" is a story with social emotional learning (SEL) in mind. It has been praised by teachers and therapists worldwide. This story told from Jackson's point of view will help open your child's mind to what it feels like to be angry and how to deal with it. Jackson will teach your child how we are empowered to change our mindset and how we deal with life's setbacks. With Jackson in real life examples, your child will learn to develop their understanding of their own emotions. Throughout the story, Jackson will show you how it feels to be angry and then how to cope. Teacher and Therapist Toolbox: I Choose is an empowering series curated to empower young children to become aware of big emotions. A new book series developed in tandem with teachers and therapists to help children cope with a range of emotions and teach them that they indeed hold the power to choose their actions and reactions. So Jackson thanked his friend for his help. He decided to be stronger than anger itself. He breathed in and out deeply, then counted to ten, And thought of a happy place to find his zen. "I Choose to Calm My Anger" was developed alongside counselors and parents to be used as a resource in a social emotional curriculum.
