Like most little girls, Stephanie Starks dreams about being a princess. After her parents take her to see a live performance of Cinderella, her mind is filled with fairy tales, castles and tiaras. That night, Stephanie gets her wish. When she opens her eyes, she finds herself in the company of her very own fairy godmother, the Dream Queen, though she is hardly the fairy tale type. More the evil stepmother than anything else, the Dream Queen puts Princess Stephanie to work. Will Stephanie and the other captive princesses be able to work together to outsmart the Dream Queen and escape this nightmare? See Stephanie and her friends discover that the true strength of a princess doesn’t just come from believing, but from having the courage to do what must be done.
How do we position ourselves, moment by moment, in relation to our patients and how do these positions inform both what we come to know about our patients and how we intervene? Do we participate as neutral object, as empathic self-object, or as authentic subject? Do we strive to enhance the patient's knowledge, to provide a corrective experience, or to work at the intimate edge? In an effort to answer these and other clinically relevant questions about the process of psychotherapeutic change, Martha Stark has developed a comprehensive theory of therapeutic action that integrates the interpretive perspective of classical psychoanalysis (Model 1), the corrective-provision perspective of self psychology and those object relations theories emphasizing the internal 'absence of good' (Model 2), and the relational perspective of contemporary psychoanalysis and those object relations theories emphasizing the internal 'presence of bad' (Model 3). Model I is about knowledge and insight. It is a one-person psychology because its focus is on the patient and the internal workings of her mind. Model 2 is about corrective experience. It is a one-and-a-half-person psychology because its emphasis is not so much on the relationship per se, but on the filling in of the patient's deficits by way of the therapist's corrective provision; what ultimately matters is not who the therapist is, but, rather, what she can offer. Model 3 is about relationship, the real relationship. It is a two-person psychology because its focus is on patients and therapists who relate to each other as real people; it is about mutuality, reciprocity, and intersubjectivity. Whereas Model 2 is about 'give' and involves the therapist's bringing the best of who she is into the room, Model 3 is about 'give-and-take' and involves the therapist's bringing all of who she is into the room. As Dr. Stark repeatedly demonstrates in numerous clinical vignettes, the three modes of therapeutic actionDknowledge, experience, and relationshipDare not mutually exclusive but mutually enhancing. If, as therapists, we can tolerate the necessary uncertainty that comes with the recognition that there is an infinite variety of possibilities for change, then we will be able to enhance the therapeutic potential of each moment and optimize our effectiveness as clinicians.
A mental health expert sheds light on "gaslighting"--the manipulative technique used by sociopaths, narcissists, and others--offering practical strategies to cope and break free. He's the charmer -- the witty, confident, but overly controlling date. She's the woman on your team who always manages to take credit for your good work. He's the neighbor who swears you've been putting your garbage into his trash cans, the politician who can never admit to a mistake. Gaslighters are master controllers and manipulators, often challenging your very sense of reality. Whether it's a spouse, parent, coworker, or friend, gaslighters distort the truth -- by lying, withholding, triangulation, and more -- making their victims question their own reality and sanity. Dr. Stephanie Sarkis delves into this hidden manipulation technique, covering gaslighting in every life scenario, sharing: Why gaslighters seem so "normal" at first Warning signs and examples Gaslighter "red flags" on a first date Practical strategies for coping How to coparent with a gaslighter How to protect yourself from a gaslighter at work How to walk away and rebuild your life With clear-eyed wisdom and empathy, Dr. Sarkis not only helps you determine if you are being victimized by a gaslighter -- she gives you the tools to break free and heal.
John Levorson Goplerud founded the Goplerud family. He lived in central Norway from 1724 to 1801 and he made charcoal for the early iron industry. Thus he and all his descendants are known as the "Charcoal Burner Family." He had 6 children who took the names: Goplerud, Aspholt, Lindelien, Lundo (Lundene), Landsen, and Stugaarden. Those are the 6 "branches" in this book. There have been more than 100,000 descendants of this family. Descendants came to Wisconsin, Minnesota, Iowa and Dakota in the mid-1800's. Over 10,500 are listed in this book, more than half distributed widely in the U.S.A. with large numbers also in Norway (especially Valdres, Ringerike, Hallingdal and Oslo). Includes ancestors to the 1400's (with conjecture to 65 B.C.) together with family and locality history.
