Parents raising a child while living separately are advised to cooperate, but what if the other parent won't? Self-Centered Co-Parenting discusses five strategies to empower a parent to focus on things within a parent's own control to raise a child and tips to interact productively with the other parent.
Every child deserves effective parenting. Parents living separately become frustrated when the co-parent refuses to cooperate. Self-Centered Co-Parenting is an effective approach for managing the uncooperative co-parent that uses five strategies to empower a parent to focus on things within the parent's own control to raise a child and interact productively with the other parent. This guide includes in-depth discussion of identifying needs, adopting a problem-solving mindset,overcoming defensiveness, the limits of forcing, and the use of nudges and prediction to gain cooperation.
A positive, mindful plan for children and parents in transition! If you're facing the challenge of raising children in two homes, you may be feeling overwhelmed and unsure of how to build a healthy coparenting relationship. With The Conscious Parent's Guide to Coparenting, you'll learn how to take a relationship-centered approach to parenting, foster forgiveness, and find constructive ways to move on when relationships change. Coparenting means putting your child's needs first. And conscious parenting acknowledges a child's thoughts, feelings, and needs, as well as a parent's responsibility to them. This easy-to-use handbook helps you to: Build a coparenting relationship based on mutual respect Lower stress levels for the entire family Communicate openly with children about divorce Discuss and reach parenting decisions together Protect children, meet their needs, and help them build resilience Educate your family and friends about coparenting The concept of ending a marriage peacefully, with compassion and respect for former partners, is often viewed with surprise in modern society. But choosing to consciously coparent is an important choice you can make for yourself and your children--one that will benefit the emotional health of your family for years to come.
A successful co-parenting relationship is as vital to your child's well-being and health as nutritious food or proper exercise. Research, anecdotal evidence, and plain common sense all point to the fact that children are happier, healthier, and better adjusted when both of their parents play an active role in their lives. Studies also show that the trauma children experience in the wake of a divorce or separation can be lessened when they see their parents getting along. Kids whose parents successfully co-parent feel more secure than those who have limited or no connection to one of their parents post divorce. Co-Parenting 101 is based on the premise that co-parenting is a must, not an option. The involvement of both parents—not just the primary guardian—is the cornerstone of successful co-parenting. This is the first book written by a formerly married couple for whom co parenting is central to their day to day lives, and it offers a comprehensive, personal, and upfront look at how to effectively raise kids with an ex-spouse. Authors Deesha Philyaw and Michael D. Thomas, the creators of the popular co-parenting website, co-parenting101.org, share their own experiences raising their children together, as well as provide professional advice from co-parenting experts. Through practical tips combined with expert parental strategies, this book a great resource for divorced parents with children. For parents, less time stressed out about legal wrangling means more time to be fully present and engaged with the children. By learning to put their animosity aside, parents can focus on putting their kids first.
Take coparenting to the next level and provide a stable environment for your children as you and your spouse begin tackling your separation or divorce. For parents who are separating and want to put their children first, birdnesting could be the interim custody solution you’ve been looking for. Instead of the children splitting their time being shuttled between mom and dad’s separate homes, birdnesting allows the children to stay in the “nest” and instead, requires mom and dad to swap, allowing each parent to stay elsewhere when not with the children. Initially popularized by celebrities, this method of coparenting is now becoming more mainstream as a way to help ease children into a new family dynamic. Birdnesting takes work and commitment but with Dr. Ann Gold Buscho’s guidance, you’ll learn everything you need to know about this revolutionary method. In The Parent’s Guide to Birdnesting, you will discover the pros and cons, the financial and interpersonal considerations, and if it’s the right decision for you and your family.
Parenting Without the Drama: Outsmart Your Ex, Protect and Raise a Happy Child Does every conversation with your ex feel like a trap? Are you constantly on edge, wondering when the next blow-up will happen? Co-parenting with a narcissist can feel like an endless cycle of manipulation, where every simple decision turns into a high-stakes game you never agreed to play. It’s like being stuck in a never-ending performance where your ex is the lead actor, and you’re left scrambling backstage, trying to keep the show from falling apart. But it doesn’t have to be this way. This book is your guide to escaping the chaos and creating a peaceful, stable environment for your children—even when your ex is determined to keep you off balance. Parenting with a narcissist isn’t just tiring—it’s an emotional rollercoaster that leaves you questioning your sanity. Your ex thrives on turning even the smallest discussions into power plays, keeping you on the defensive and making you feel like you’re always one step behind. And while you’re fighting to keep things calm, your kids are caught in the middle, feeling the weight of every argument and every silent standoff. But here’s the reality: with the right strategies, you can break free from the drama, protect your children, and find a way to parent that puts their happiness first. This book is not just another co-parenting guide—it’s a lifeline for those trapped in the narcissist’s relentless game. Packed with real-world strategies and insights, you’ll learn how to set boundaries, reduce conflict, and finally take control of your co-parenting journey. This isn’t about changing the narcissist; it’s about empowering you to change the way you engage, protect your peace, and focus on what truly matters: raising happy, resilient kids. Here’s a sneak peek of what’s inside: How to spot the narcissist’s manipulative tactics so you can stop getting pulled into their games. The key differences between co-parenting and parallel parenting, and why parallel parenting works when nothing else does. Easy steps to make the switch from co-parenting to parallel parenting How to use the Grey Rock Method to make yourself unprovokable, taking away the narcissist’s control. Proven ways to set and enforce boundaries that protect your emotional well-being and keep your home drama-free. Smart tips for using technology to manage communication and document interactions, so you’re always prepared and protected. Effective strategies for supporting your child’s emotional health, helping them navigate the chaos and feel safe, secure, and loved. Self-care practices to help you manage stress, rebuild your confidence, and stay strong for yourself and your kids. Plus, an exclusive downloadable toolbox at the end of the book! Access assessments, an audiobook, and practical tools to help you put what you’ve learned into action. You don’t have to keep playing a role in the narcissist’s drama. You can create a loving, peaceful home where your children can thrive without the constant disruption of a toxic ex. This book is more than advice—it’s your personal guide to a better, healthier co-parenting or parallel parenting experience. Ready to take control and protect your child’s happiness? Scroll up and click “Add to Cart” to start your journey to peaceful parenting today. YOU DESERVE THIS, AND SO DO YOUR CHILDREN!
Note: links below connect to the non-profit educational Break the Cycle! Web site (Formerly "Stepfamily inFormation"). Close the pages or use your browser ́s "back" button to return here. Typical multi-home stepfamilies are riddled with conflicts between three or more co-parents and their relatives over child discipline, nutrition, visitations, custody, hygiene, religion, schooling, hoidays, loyalties, expenses, names, responsibilities, and other topics. The scope, complexity, and persistence of these disputes among ex mates, stepparents, and relatives can significantly contribute to eventual re/divorce. (The "/" notes it may be a stepparent ́s first union). This guidebook is part of a series intended to help co-parents and supporters overcome five common hazards that combine to (1) promote epidemic U.S. re/divorce, and (2) pass on significant psychological wounds to vulnerable children. The hazards are: co-parents ́ shared unawarenesses and ignorance of key information; plus... unseen psychological wounds from low-nurturance childhoods; plus... incomplete or blocked grief in kids and/or adults, which inhibits new bonds and adult intimacy; plus... courtship neediness and romantic illusions; plus... little informed stepfamily help in the media and local community. Typical nuclear stepfamilies include three or more co-parents (bioparents and stepparents) and several minor kids shuttling between two or more homes: Parenting effectively in this environment is far more complex than in "traditional" intact biological families - which catches typical co-parents and relatives by surprise. Why this book (and series)? Families exist to nurture - i.e. to fill key needs of their kids and adults. Most U.S. stepfamilies follow the divorce of one or both new mates, most of whom are parents. Divorce suggests that their kids weren ́t well nurtured in their first family, and have many concurrent developmental + special needs to fill in their complex stepfamily.
In the best-selling ScreamFree Parenting, Hal Runkel showed thousands of parents how focusing on themselves, in order to keep their cool, can revolutionize their family life. In his groundbreaking new book, The Self-Centered Marriage, Runkel now shows couples how learning to focus on themselves, in order to stay calm in the face of common marital conflicts, is the key to creating a deep, lifelong connection. Every committed couple strives to hold on to the marriage they envisioned back when they first said "I do"--before kids, mortgages, and all of life's inescapable issues seemed to get in the way. But the truth is this: conflict about these issues is unavoidable. What typically results are two spouses feeling forced to compromise themselves in order to just get along and keep it together. Eventually couples start "screaming" at each other--sometimes literally yelling out loud, sometimes shutting themselves down and shutting their partners out. In The Self-Centered Marriage, therapist and bestselling author Hal Runkel introduces some radical new concepts about marriage, teaching couples how to embrace their separate selves as a profound vehicle for strengthening a marriage. Every great marriage is a self-centered marriage because it's a bond between two whole, centered people. Calmly focusing on your own behavior, choices, and moods—which you can control—rather than your spouse’s—which you cannot—is the first step toward creating the relationship you really crave. Using accessible anecdotes and disarming humor, Runkel disproves prevailing marital wisdom and reveals a revolutionary path for spouses to be fully themselves, and fully married, at the same time.
This comprehensive guide offers a roadmap for navigating the complexities of co-parenting with a narcissistic ex. It provides invaluable strategies for setting clear boundaries, maintaining emotional distance, and prioritizing the well-being of your children. Through practical advice and real-life examples, this book helps you understand the manipulative tactics employed by narcissists and equips you with the tools to effectively counter them. It empowers you to establish healthy co-parenting dynamics, reduce conflict, and create a nurturing environment for your children. Whether you are struggling with communication, financial disputes, or the manipulation of your children's affections, this book provides evidence-based strategies for addressing each challenge. It highlights the importance of seeking support from therapists, attorneys, and other professionals to ensure the safety and emotional well-being of both yourself and your children. By embracing the principles outlined in this guide, you can break free from the cycle of manipulation and create a thriving co-parenting relationship that prioritizes the happiness and health of your children. It is an indispensable resource for any parent facing the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissistic ex.
Can you identify any of these situations in your relationship? • Do you constantly adjust your needs and emotions to suit your partner, as they refuse to change? • Does your partner hold you responsible for their infidelity, claiming it's your fault they had to cheat? • Perhaps you have already separated or ended the relationship, but you keep returning because they plead, make promises of improvement or even threaten you if you don't come back. • When you attempt a casual conversation about a straightforward topic, it somehow escalates into a disagreement or argument. • Is your connection with your children becoming tense? Divorcing a narcissist is a dangerous and intricate process – they fight without boundaries. If you are co-parenting with a narcissist, you are likely familiar with their petty power plays aimed at hurting and controlling you. They might even try to manipulate your children against you. Does this sound all too familiar? What can you do? Remain with the narcissist and stay unhappy or leave them and pursue happiness. This book targets those ready to break free from a narcissist or who are currently in the process of divorcing one. It serves as a guide on how to handle your relationship with your children to minimise trauma. This book aims to guide you in breaking free from a toxic relationship and thrive alongside your children. Take a sneak peek at some of the valuable insights you can expect to discover: - Understanding Narcissism. - Types of Narcissism. - Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome. - The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse. - Terminating a Relationship with a Narcissist. - Establishing Boundaries with a Narcissist. - Handling a Narcissist during Divorce Proceedings. - Addressing a Judge in Court. - The No Contact Rule. - Discussing Divorce with Your Child. - Addressing Your Child's Questions about Divorce. - Child Development and Adjusting to Parental Separation. - Parental Alienation Syndrome. - The Challenges of Raising a Child with a Narcissistic Parent. - Loneliness and Emotional Scars. - Self-care, Self-worth, and Self-love. - Embracing Happiness as a Single Person. - Discovering Genuine Love. Amidst and after a challenging divorce, your relationship with your children can easily become strained. They may experience confusion, inner conflict, anger, anxiety, or depression, leaving you feeling helpless. This book offers a solution. Act now, before it's too late! Take a deep breath. While you may be connected to this person through your children indefinitely, this guide offers everything you need to establish a healthy relationship with your kids, thrive together, and make the situation less overwhelming.