This is a self-help book inviting the reader to examine their own life and how personal and social myths impact and limit their choices. By understanding how these myths operate, you can re-evaluate their role in your life, see the pervasiveness of myths in other people's lives, and how their resistance to change is influenced by them. It provides tools for becoming an even stronger voice for change.
Freedom of choice is at the core of the American story. But what if choice is fake?Americans are fixated on the idea of choice. Our political theory is based on the consent of the governed. Our legal system is built upon the argument that people freely make choices and bear responsibility for them. And what slogan could better express the heart of our consumer culture than "Have it your way"?In this provocative book, Kent Greenfield poses unsettling questions about the choices we make. What if they are more constrained and limited than we like to think? If we have less free will than we realize, what are the implications for us as individuals and for our society? To uncover the answers, Greenfield taps into scholarship on topics ranging from brain science to economics, political theory to sociology. His discoveries—told through an entertaining array of news events, personal anecdotes, crime stories, and legal decisions—confirm that many factors, conscious and unconscious, limit our free will. Worse, by failing to perceive them we leave ourselves open to manipulation. But Greenfield offers useful suggestions to help us become better decision makers as individuals, and to ensure that in our laws and public policy we acknowledge the complexity of choice.
Conventional wisdom says that women are the manipulative ones - but tell that to the thousands of desperate women suffering at the hands of a manipulative man. Men can be just as sneaky, passive-aggressive, needy, underhanded, whiny, guilt-inducing, and emotionally demanding as women are accused of being - and more so! As any woman in love with a manipulative man can tell you, it's not easy to get past his charm and your guilt to a place where you can see your relationship for what it is - out of balance, extraordinarily stressful, emotionally exhausting, and potentially dangerous. The Manipulative Man is a groundbreaking prescription for dealing with the manipulative men in your life by using: Tests to help you determine if you are involved with a mama's boy, narcissist, sociopath, or even a psychopath Techniques for defining and setting boundaries with your man Tools to help you improve their relationship And more! In The Manipulative Man, acclaimed psychotherapist Dr. Dorothy McCoy shows you how to identify the type of manipulative man you're involved with, deal with the issues his behavior provokes, and, ultimately, salvage the relationship - or move on.
Whether we're buying a pair of jeans, ordering a cup of coffee, selecting a long-distance carrier, applying to college, choosing a doctor, or setting up a 401(k), everyday decisions—both big and small—have become increasingly complex due to the overwhelming abundance of choice with which we are presented. As Americans, we assume that more choice means better options and greater satisfaction. But beware of excessive choice: choice overload can make you question the decisions you make before you even make them, it can set you up for unrealistically high expectations, and it can make you blame yourself for any and all failures. In the long run, this can lead to decision-making paralysis, anxiety, and perpetual stress. And, in a culture that tells us that there is no excuse for falling short of perfection when your options are limitless, too much choice can lead to clinical depression. In The Paradox of Choice, Barry Schwartz explains at what point choice—the hallmark of individual freedom and self-determination that we so cherish—becomes detrimental to our psychological and emotional well-being. In accessible, engaging, and anecdotal prose, Schwartz shows how the dramatic explosion in choice—from the mundane to the profound challenges of balancing career, family, and individual needs—has paradoxically become a problem instead of a solution. Schwartz also shows how our obsession with choice encourages us to seek that which makes us feel worse. By synthesizing current research in the social sciences, Schwartz makes the counter intuitive case that eliminating choices can greatly reduce the stress, anxiety, and busyness of our lives. He offers eleven practical steps on how to limit choices to a manageable number, have the discipline to focus on those that are important and ignore the rest, and ultimately derive greater satisfaction from the choices you have to make.
Gender Is a Choice is a remarkable book that thoughtfully demystifies gender discrimination. It shows the underlying causes of discrimination, which lie deep in our cultures. Based on the human rights perspective of equality and dignity, Ms. Mukasa reaffirms that we are all born equal, without gender bias or prejudice, and we all share a propensity to learn, grow, and maximize our innate potential to lead meaningful, happy lives. However, societies have views based on cultural norms, attitudes, and beliefs that lead to unequal gender relations of power. As a result, many women and girls suffer. This highly educational book highlights the key gender concepts and gives them meaning through a practical family portrait at the end. Ms. Mukasa decisively affirms that despite powerful socialization processes, gender injustice can be overcome. The key issue to transform is the traditional socialization process. The main tool is to create awareness of the embedded negative aspects concerning women’s and men’s relationships. It calls upon men and women to appreciate that the current gender relations of power are unnatural and unacceptable. They are man-made and can be dismantled using our agency to make the right choices. Women’s disempowerment can be disrupted, and gender justice can be promoted. This book is relevant to all people since gender discrimination is universal and has universally negative consequences. Gender discrimination must therefore be disrupted everywhere, every time, by everyone. However, Ms. Mukasa makes her own choice to focus on the African gender context and the audience whose culture she understands best.
The bestselling author of The How of Happiness reveals how to find opportunity in life’s thorniest moments Focusing on life’s biggest, messiest moments, Sonja Lyubomirsky provides readers with the clear-eyed vision they need to build the healthiest, most satisfying life. Lyubomirsky argues that we have been given false promises—myths that assure us that lifelong happiness will be attained once we hit the culturally confirmed markers of adult success. This black-and-white vision of happiness works to discourage us from recognizing the upside of any negative and limits our potential for personal growth. A corrective course on happiness and a call to regard life’s twists and turns with a more open mind, The Myths of Happiness shares practical lessons that prove we are more adaptable than we think we are. It empowers readers to look beyond their first response, sharing scientific evidence that often it is our mindset—not our circumstances—that matters most.
An internationally recognized expert on behavior change presents a revolutionary approach to personal improvement that converts scientifically proven techniques into a ninety-day plan with five simple steps.
"International sex researcher, neuroscientist, and frequent contributor to The Globe and Mail (Toronto) Debra Soh [discusses what she sees as] gender myths in this ... examination of the many facets of gender identity"--
Veteran undergraduate text, first published in 1978, for courses in applied psychology and personal development. Updated for the current edition are discussion of cultural and gender issues as they reflect on personal choice and behavior; much new material (AIDS, sexual harassment). Offers tools such as self-inventories, personal reflection sections, activities, and exercises. Annotation copyright by Book News, Inc., Portland, OR
