Losing Ourselves
Losing Ourselves

Author: Jay L. Garfield

Publisher: Princeton University Press

Published: 2023-11-14

Total Pages: 224

ISBN-13: 0691220573

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Why you don’t have a self—and why that’s a good thing In Losing Ourselves, Jay Garfield, a leading expert on Buddhist philosophy, offers a brief and radically clear account of an idea that at first might seem frightening but that promises to liberate us and improve our lives, our relationships, and the world. Drawing on Indian and East Asian Buddhism, Daoism, Western philosophy, and cognitive neuroscience, Garfield shows why it is perfectly natural to think you have a self—and why it actually makes no sense at all and is even dangerous. Most importantly, he explains why shedding the illusion that you have a self can make you a better person. Examining a wide range of arguments for and against the existence of the self, Losing Ourselves makes the case that there are not only good philosophical and scientific reasons to deny the reality of the self, but that we can lead healthier social and moral lives if we understand that we are selfless persons. The book describes why the Buddhist idea of no-self is so powerful and why it has immense practical benefits, helping us to abandon egoism, act more morally and ethically, be more spontaneous, perform more expertly, and navigate ordinary life more skillfully. Getting over the self-illusion also means escaping the isolation of self-identity and becoming a person who participates with others in the shared enterprise of life. The result is a transformative book about why we have nothing to lose—and everything to gain—by losing our selves.

Losing Ourselves
Losing Ourselves

Author: Jay L. Garfield

Publisher: Princeton University Press

Published: 2022-05-24

Total Pages: 224

ISBN-13: 0691220298

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Why you don’t have a self—and why that’s a good thing In Losing Ourselves, Jay Garfield, a leading expert on Buddhist philosophy, offers a brief and radically clear account of an idea that at first might seem frightening but that promises to liberate us and improve our lives, our relationships, and the world. Drawing on Indian and East Asian Buddhism, Daoism, Western philosophy, and cognitive neuroscience, Garfield shows why it is perfectly natural to think you have a self—and why it actually makes no sense at all and is even dangerous. Most importantly, he explains why shedding the illusion that you have a self can make you a better person. Examining a wide range of arguments for and against the existence of the self, Losing Ourselves makes the case that there are not only good philosophical and scientific reasons to deny the reality of the self, but that we can lead healthier social and moral lives if we understand that we are selfless persons. The book describes why the Buddhist idea of no-self is so powerful and why it has immense practical benefits, helping us to abandon egoism, act more morally and ethically, be more spontaneous, perform more expertly, and navigate ordinary life more skillfully. Getting over the self-illusion also means escaping the isolation of self-identity and becoming a person who participates with others in the shared enterprise of life. The result is a transformative book about why we have nothing to lose—and everything to gain—by losing our selves.

Global Dexterity
Global Dexterity

Author: Andy Molinsky

Publisher: Harvard Business Review Press

Published: 2013-02-19

Total Pages: 228

ISBN-13: 1422187284

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“I wrote this book because I believe that there is a serious gap in what has been written and communicated about cross-cultural management and what people actually struggle with on the ground.”—From the Introduction What does it mean to be a global worker and a true “citizen of the world” today? It goes beyond merely acknowledging cultural differences. In reality, it means you are able to adapt your behavior to conform to new cultural contexts without losing your authentic self in the process. Not only is this difficult, it’s a frightening prospect for most people and something completely outside their comfort zone. But managing and communicating with people from other cultures is an essential skill today. Most of us collaborate with teams across borders and cultures on a regular basis, whether we spend our time in the office or out on the road. What’s needed now is a critical new skill, something author Andy Molinsky calls global dexterity. In this book Molinsky offers the tools needed to simultaneously adapt behavior to new cultural contexts while staying authentic and grounded in your own natural style. Based on more than a decade of research, teaching, and consulting with managers and executives around the world, this book reveals an approach to adapting while feeling comfortable—an essential skill that enables you to switch behaviors and overcome the emotional and psychological challenges of doing so. From identifying and overcoming challenges to integrating what you learn into your everyday environment, Molinsky provides a guidebook—and mentoring—to raise your confidence and your profile. Practical, engaging, and refreshing, Global Dexterity will help you reach across cultures—and succeed in today’s global business environment.

The Art of Losing Yourself
The Art of Losing Yourself

Author: Katie Ganshert

Publisher: WaterBrook

Published: 2015-04-21

Total Pages: 322

ISBN-13: 1601425937

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Just like in my dream, I was drowning and nobody even noticed. Every morning, Carmen Hart pastes on her made-for-TV smile and broadcasts the weather. She’s the Florida panhandle’s favorite meteorologist, married to everyone’s favorite high school football coach. They’re the perfect-looking couple, live in a nice house, and attend church on Sundays. From the outside, she’s a woman who has it all together. But on the inside, Carmen Hart struggles with doubt. She wonders if she made a mistake when she married her husband. She wonders if God is as powerful as she once believed. Sometimes she wonders if He exists at all. After years of secret losses and empty arms, she’s not so sure anymore. Until Carmen’s sister—seventeen year old runaway, Gracie Fisher—steps in and changes everything. Gracie is caught squatting at a boarded-up motel that belongs to Carmen’s aunt, and their mother is off on another one of her benders, which means Carmen has no other option but to take Gracie in. Is it possible for God to use a broken teenager and an abandoned motel to bring a woman’s faith and marriage back to life? Can two half-sisters make each other whole? — Carol Award: Contemporary Fiction Winner

Disentangle
Disentangle

Author: Nancy L. Johnston

Publisher: Central Recovery Press

Published: 2020-08-18

Total Pages: 188

ISBN-13: 1949481352

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A revised edition of the best-selling solution-oriented guide to identifying and healing over-involvement or "entanglement" in relationships with other. Anyone who has struggled with balancing his or her own needs and desires with those of the “other” person will benefit from Nancy Johnston's sensible, easy-to-follow method for changing the course of one's relationships. Disentangle combines psychoeducation, personal anecdotes, clinical case vignettes, and skills-building exercises. Johnston describes how to turn this self-destructive cycle around with self-assessments and experiential exercises designed to address essential aspects of self-awareness, distortions in thinking, communication style and tools, and spirituality. “Disentangling” is the process of creating enough emotional space between oneself and another person in order to better see the realities of any relationship and make healthier conscious decisions about it.

A Field Guide to Getting Lost
A Field Guide to Getting Lost

Author: Rebecca Solnit

Publisher: Penguin

Published: 2006-06-27

Total Pages: 226

ISBN-13: 1101118717

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“An intriguing amalgam of personal memoir, philosophical speculation, natural lore, cultural history, and art criticism.” —Los Angeles Times From the award-winning author of Orwell's Roses, a stimulating exploration of wandering, being lost, and the uses of the unknown Written as a series of autobiographical essays, A Field Guide to Getting Lost draws on emblematic moments and relationships in Rebecca Solnit's life to explore issues of uncertainty, trust, loss, memory, desire, and place. Solnit is interested in the stories we use to navigate our way through the world, and the places we traverse, from wilderness to cities, in finding ourselves, or losing ourselves. While deeply personal, her own stories link up to larger stories, from captivity narratives of early Americans to the use of the color blue in Renaissance painting, not to mention encounters with tortoises, monks, punk rockers, mountains, deserts, and the movie Vertigo. The result is a distinctive, stimulating voyage of discovery.

The Worst Evil—Losing Yourself
The Worst Evil—Losing Yourself

Author: Arla Caraboolad

Publisher: AuthorHouse

Published: 2011-01-28

Total Pages: 330

ISBN-13: 1456710761

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Arlas journey left her sure she had a self, but uncertain where to look for validation of it. Fortunately, her self lead her to question God. She began to discover that God really does LOVE people, in fact He likes them, and anything that disconnects us from Him, or causes us to deny our potential, was not from God, but was a result, directly or indirectly, of evil. Drawing from her experience as a therapist, Arla shares how evil works through authority figures to make children (and adults) doubt their value and worth. She provides very detailed and practical advice about the struggle between good and evil that pervades our world; and how this battle manifests itself in our lives. She shows how false beliefs, even if youre unconscious of them, distort self-worth and lead us to make dangerous and discouraging choices; and how a correct understanding of God can heal you and lead to discovering your true self. Why do we make the choices we do? What is it that compels us to drift in certain directions? Are there forces working behind the scenes to affect our daily life? Are there tools we can employ in our lives that will make a difference? Do we have a choice? Must we accept the lies placed on us? Is there research that supports the affect of our choices? If you have wondered why you make choices you wish you didnt make, and how to start making choices that fulfill you and bring you to experience real joy, this is the book for you. Do you feel empty, like you have no choice? Can life change? Is there hope? Are you stuck? Here is understanding. Read and find strength and hope. Awaken to the fact that you are desired as you are.

The People Pleaser's Guide to Loving Others without Losing Yourself
The People Pleaser's Guide to Loving Others without Losing Yourself

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle

Publisher: Revell

Published: 2021-01-19

Total Pages: 224

ISBN-13: 1493428926

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We all want other people to like us and think well of us. But when we depend on the praise, admiration, or appreciation of others for our sense of self-worth, we become trapped in an exhausting and debilitating cycle of people-pleasing relationships where we always give and rarely receive. The most common advice we hear--Start putting your own needs first!-- doesn't work, because we do love helping other people! Thankfully, the solution to the people pleaser's "problem" isn't to fundamentally change who you are--it's to fundamentally change where you find your worth. In this freeing book, Dr. Mike Bechtle shows you stop letting your fears of rejection, criticism, invisibility, or inadequacy drive your actions and start rebuilding your sense of self-worth from the inside out. When you do, you'll discover that what you once thought of as a struggle is actually a strength.

Memory Speaks
Memory Speaks

Author: Julie Sedivy

Publisher: Harvard University Press

Published: 2021-10-12

Total Pages: 369

ISBN-13: 067498028X

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From an award-winning writer and linguist, a scientific and personal meditation on the phenomenon of language loss and the possibility of renewal. As a child Julie Sedivy left Czechoslovakia for Canada, and English soon took over her life. By early adulthood she spoke Czech rarely and badly, and when her father died unexpectedly, she lost not only a beloved parent but also her firmest point of connection to her native language. As Sedivy realized, more is at stake here than the loss of language: there is also the loss of identity. Language is an important part of adaptation to a new culture, and immigrants everywhere face pressure to assimilate. Recognizing this tension, Sedivy set out to understand the science of language loss and the potential for renewal. In Memory Speaks, she takes on the psychological and social world of multilingualism, exploring the human brainÕs capacity to learnÑand forgetÑlanguages at various stages of life. But while studies of multilingual experience provide resources for the teaching and preservation of languages, Sedivy finds that the challenges facing multilingual people are largely political. Countering the widespread view that linguistic pluralism splinters loyalties and communities, Sedivy argues that the struggle to remain connected to an ancestral language and culture is a site of common ground, as people from all backgrounds can recognize the crucial role of language in forming a sense of self. Distinctive and timely, Memory Speaks combines a rich body of psychological research with a moving story at once personal and universally resonant. As citizens debate the merits of bilingual education, as the worldÕs less dominant languages are driven to extinction, and as many people confront the pain of language loss, this is badly needed wisdom.