While the world of kink and BDSM is far from new, the language we use to discuss it is constantly evolving and growing while we gain a better understanding of ourselves and the world around us. What was once a binary system with assumed roles based on gender, we now have fluidity and questions before assumption, or at least we're doing what we can to help that shift so that all consenting adults are included rather than shamed or outcast because they don't fit the mold. This dictionary, the "Kinktionary," is created with this positive growth in mind. A dictionary that updates our old definitions while also providing space for new words and phrases as you come across them. Every section has designated space so you can continue to update definitions as they change, add new words that may be added to our lexicon, and watch your dictionary grow along with you. Newbies fear not, with over 400 words and phrases contained in "Kinktionary" you're sure to start with a solid foundation for your kink journey. Already an experienced kinkster? Keep "Kinktionary" on hand for quick reference material and add to it to your heart's content. So, get out your favorite pens, start clipping images of your favorite gear or inspiration for play you love, this isn't your standard school dictionary; in this book you're encouraged to write, draw, scribble, and make it your own!
While the world of kink and BDSM is far from new, the language we use to discuss it is constantly evolving and growing while we gain a better understanding of ourselves and the world around us.What was once a binary system with assumed roles based on gender, we now have fluidity and questions before assumption, or at least we're doing what we can to help that shift so that all consenting adults are included rather than shamed or outcast because they don't fit the mold. This dictionary, the "Kinktionary," is created with this positive growth in mind. A dictionary that updates our old definitions while also providing space for new words and phrases as you come across them. Every section has designated space so you can continue to update definitions as they change, add new words that may be added to our lexicon, and watch your dictionary grow along with you.Newbies fear not, with over 400 words and phrases contained in "Kinktionary" you're sure to start with a solid foundation for your kink journey. Already an experienced kinkster? Keep "Kinktionary" on hand for quick reference material and add to it to your heart's content.So, get out your favorite pens, start clipping images of your favorite gear or inspiration for play you love, this isn't your standard school dictionary; in this book you're encouraged to write, draw, scribble, and make it your own!
Learn Better Ways to Process Pain in Play for More Fulfilling and Rewarding BDSM Scenes Pain Play for Everyone is a complete guide to understanding the body's methods for pain processing. Knowing how your body responds to pain will help you get you to accept the sensations, break down the walls keeping you from moving forward, and help you explore more of what pain play can do for your SM experiences. Has every play session ended before you want it to, or you feel like you wimp out because you can't process any more pain? Have you ever wanted to know what is the best way to process pain during play that will work for you? That's what Pain Play For Everyone is all about. It's the complete step-by-step guide for learning about the hormone cocktail that is responsible for your reactions to painful sensations and the positive and negative ways we process pain. The Key to Better Pain Processing is Understanding Your Body's Responses This book is written for bottoms who engage in all varieties of play that involve experiencing pain, no matter your experience level. I'll show you how to learn a new pain processing method that will work for you and you will have more rewarding BDSM sessions than ever before. What's Inside? * The hormone cocktail that is responsible for how we process pain. * Learn how to negotiate scenes for better pain processing that will provide more fulfilling and rewarding scenes. * Explore the positive and negative ways we process pain and learn how you currently process pain. * Identify what can interfere with your pain processing and keep you from getting what you want out of play. * Learn the combination of techniques that have proven to be the best way to process pain during play. * A step-by-step guide to a new pain processing technique that will work for you to get you over the false edge you've been stuck at for so long. No matter your reasoning for why you submit to pain play, being able to expand your ability to process pain and move through pain in a healthy and productive way is a great benefit. Pick it up today!
Sam is a small child with a big problem, they HATE Santa. And so, this Christmas, it's time to embark on a quest to vanquish that villain once and for all. Along the way, Sam will encounter Ice Queens and evil Elves, and not a few rocket launchers and explosives, but the big question is...will they be able to rid the world of the tyranny of Santa?
Winner of the MLA's 2016 Alan Bray Prize for Best Book in GLBTQ Studies How BDSM can be used as a metaphor for black female sexuality. The Color of Kink explores black women's representations and performances within American pornography and BDSM (bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism) from the 1930s to the present, revealing the ways in which they illustrate a complex and contradictory negotiation of pain, pleasure, and power for black women. Based on personal interviews conducted with pornography performers, producers, and professional dominatrices, visual and textual analysis, and extensive archival research, Ariane Cruz reveals BDSM and pornography as critical sites from which to rethink the formative links between Black female sexuality and violence. She explores how violence becomes not just a vehicle of pleasure but also a mode of accessing and contesting power. Drawing on feminist and queer theory, critical race theory, and media studies, Cruz argues that BDSM is a productive space from which to consider the complexity and diverseness of black women's sexual practice and the mutability of black female sexuality. Illuminating the cross-pollination of black sexuality and BDSM, The Color of Kink makes a unique contribution to the growing scholarship on racialized sexuality.
Sexually curious adults can learn how to enjoy bedroom bondage in an easy step-by-step fashion while still being tasteful, playful, and authentic Rope bondage is not just about tying someone up; it is an opportunity for sensuality, creativity, playfulness, connection, and passion. Bondage artist and educator Lee Harrington takes you on a journey through easy step-by-step ties and exercises for bringing you and your partner closer together through this beautiful art form. The second book in the Shibari You Can Use series, More Shibari You Can Use picks up where the first book left off, with all new ties in a playful, down-to-earth, and engaging voice. But it's about more than the bondage. This time you also get a chance to connect more with your partner through a variety of exercises that explore touch, dominance and submission, intimacy, and trust. With beautifully shot images by RiggerJay, this guide offers intermediate techniques for those ready for a challenge, broken down into clear directions for new and experienced "riggers" alike. Find techniques for learning rope bondage negotiation, speed restraint (Texas handcuffs and speed-release corsets), intricate confinement (the reverse box tie and the woven head cage), beautiful erotic rope (from the Triskelion crotch rope to the floral chest harness), and much more. Are you ready to have fun? To deepen your connection with your partner? To create beautiful artwork woven on the human form? To add some spice to your erotic life? Now is your chance. Set aside your concerns about tying someone up, grab this book and some rope, and learn passionate rope bondage for an intimate connection.
Tristan Taormino can tell you everything you want to know about the world of kink, and more! Operating on the pleasure principle 50 Shades of Kink is a truly helpful how-to that is a perfect beginner's guide into the realm of kinky sex and can also serve as a wonderful refresher course. Whether you want to get up close and personal with blindfolds, crops and paddles or just looking for some inspiration to keep your love life fresh, 50 Shades of Kink is just the book for you and your lover(s). • techniques and creative ideas for bondage, spanking, flogging, sensation play, rough sex and more • lessons on how to eroticize power, cultivate deeper connections and incorporate kink into your sex life • role-playing fantasies from the popular to the taboo
In her debut book, Morgan Thorne writes about the art and practice of Classic Discipline, also known as English Discipline.We begin with a quick lesson on the history of classic discipline so that we can use the past as inspiration for our play. Starting with the naval discipline made famous by the British, we continue on to British school discipline, which was (and sometimes still is) used in various parts of the world to keep students in line. We finish up with ritual and religious discipline, a taboo subject that many find erotic.Getting into the practical side of BDSM practice begins with exploring different types of consent, negotiation and when a 'safe word' may be needed. The differences between punishments and 'funishments' are examined, with instructions and advice for engaging in both. Morgan is well known for her emphasis on safety and goes into thorough detail on how to stay safe, both in body and mind.It is then time to learn how to use a variety of implements, including different techniques, where on the body to use them, and how to care for the implement. The book covers canes, floggers, straps, paddles, switches, birches and many other implements that fall into the category of classic discipline.This book covers what you need to know to create your own kinky discipline scenes, including how to structure your scene for different styles of play. Whether it's a punishment cold caning or a more sensual flogging scene with a schoolyard twist, a Guide to Classic Discipline will provide you with what you need to know.
Why would most people endure unwanted or unsatisfying touch, rather than speak up for their own boundaries and desires? It's a question with a myriad of answers - and one that Dr. Betty Martin has explored in her 40+ years as a hands-on practitioner, first as a chiropractor and later as a Somatic Sex Educator, Certified Surrogate Partner and Sacred Intimate. In her client sessions, she noticed a pattern wherein many clients would "allow" or go along with discomfort or unease rather than speak up for what they wanted or didn't want. Betty discovered there was a major component missing for people -- the confidence that we have a choice about what is happening to us. In her framework, "The Wheel of Consent(R)" Betty traces the fundamental roots of consent back to our childhood conditioning. As children, we are taught that to be "good" we must ignore our body's discomfort and be compliant: to finish our food even if we're full, to go to bed - even if we're not tired, to let relatives hug and kiss us even if we don't want to. We learn that our feelings don't matter more than what is happening, and that we don't have a choice but to go along, whether or not we want it. As adults, this conditioning remains with us until we have an opportunity to unlearn it, which is why consent violations are often only called out after the violation has occurred - because we have not been taught or empowered to notice our boundaries, much less value or express our internal signals as the unwanted action is happening. In this book, Betty guides the reader through the Wheel of Consent framework, and shares practices to help us recover the ability to notice what we want and set clear boundaries. While the practices are based on exchanges of touch, they can also be learned without touch. In these practices, we discover that the Art of Giving includes knowing our own limits so we can be more generous within those limits, and not give beyond our capacity - a common problem which creates feelings of resentment or martyrdom. We also discover that the Art of Receiving invites us to notice and ask for what we really want, and not just what we think we are supposed to want. This knowledge, and its embodied practice, is foundational for creating clear agreements and bringing more satisfaction into relationships. While much of consent education focuses on noticing what we don't want, or prevention of violation, Betty has developed a "pleasure-forward" approach to teaching consent. By first accessing and awakening (sometimes re-awakening) our bodies' relationship to pleasure and what we want, we can practice noticing and verbalizing what we don't want. Such an approach provides a more holistic frame in which to unlearn the childhood conditioning that taught us to be silent and compliant, and in which individuals can learn to ask for what they want and state what they don't, in a more empowered way. The implications of this approach to consent education extends beyond touch and intimate relationships. When we forget how to notice what we really want, we lose our inner compass. When we continue to go along with things we don't feel are right, we lose our ability to speak up against injustice. This has a profound effect on society. We allow all manner of inequality, corruption, theft of natural resources and our planet's future health - because "going along with it" feels normal. The Wheel of Consent offers a deeply nuanced way to practice consent as an agreement that brings integrity, responsibility, and empowerment into human interaction, starting with touch and relationships, and further expanding our understanding of consent to social issues of equality and justice.
Whether you're a trembling novice or a jaded expert, there's always something new to be discovered in the endlessly changing, complex and titillating world of kink. While there are plenty of other books out there that explain how to give a spanking or tie a half-hitch, Playing Well With Others is the first book that explains kink *culture* -- the munches, parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, exploratoriums and all the other gatherings of kinksters that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and a community. You'll learn to: • Examine your own motivations, needs, wants and desires • Ease your way into established communities • Understand etiquette in different adventurous sex communities • Familiarize yourself with the many types of events available to you • Care for your relationships as you explore new territory • Negotiate for play and aftercare • Go back to the “world at large” without ruffling feathers • ...and, of course, answer the all-important question: What do you wear?! The team of Harrington and Williams offers 30-plus years of experience in diverse kink communities: top, bottom and switch; gay, bi and straight; female, male and trans; white and POC. Both former titleholders and international educators, they are an unbeatable pair of "sexual sherpas" with an inimitable voice and a great deal of wisdom. Playing Well With Others is an unprecedented and essential guidebook for anyone who wants to explore or understand the "community" aspect of the kink lifestyle.
