Everyone feels foolish, embarrassed, judged or criticised at times, but this becomes a problem when it undermines your confidence and prevents you from doing what you want to do. Extreme social anxiety and shyness can be crippling but they are readily treated using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). In this fully revised and updated edition, Dr Gillian Butler provides a practical, easy-to-use self-help course which will be invaluable for those suffering from all degrees of social anxiety. Overcoming self-help guides use effective therapeutic techniques to treat long-standing and disabling conditions, both psychological and physical. Many guides in the Overcoming series are recommended under the Reading Well Books on Prescription scheme.
Table of Contents Introduction I Do Not Want to Approach You – a Natural Instinct How to Approach Her… How to talk to someone in a Group Polishing up Your Social Skills Conclusion Author Bio Publisher Introduction This book is for all those people out there, who would rather read a book, than interact with people of their own age group, just because they are so shy. They know that they are suffering from this little so-called effect in their personality, which prevents them from being the life and soul of the party. The moment they have to talk to somebody, they find their hands and feet swelling up – this thought is purely mental, let me assure you of that – their foreheads start to sweat, their lips feel dry, and there is a trembling in their body and spirit. Believe it or not, even the most self-assured person can find himself suffering from such a state, sometime or the other in his life. Remember Mr. Yul Brynner – personality plus? He had the power to overshadow Charles Heston in Ben Hur. And one day, Deborah Kerr, who was starring with him in the King and I, entered his makeup room by mistake, and found him with his arms outstretched, pushing against the wall and taking deep breaths. He admitted to her, that he was terrified of facing the camera because he was basically a shy person! She could not believe it. This book is written for all those people, who are basically shy – the writer included – and who wish to overcome this problem.
What to Do When You Feel Too Shy guides children and their parents through the emotions underlying social anxiety and uses strategies and techniques based on cognitive-behavioral principles to address the issue. This interactive self-help book is the complete resource for educating, motivating, and empowering children to overcome social anxiety—so they can join in the circus of fun and friends!
There's nothing wrong with being shy. But if social anxiety keeps you from forming relationships with others, advancing in your education or your career, or carrying on with everyday activities, you may need to confront your fears to live an enjoyable, satisfying life. This new edition of The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook offers a comprehensive program to help you do just that. As you complete the activities in this workbook, you'll learn to: •Find your strengths and weaknesses with a self-evaluation •Explore and examine your fears •Create a personalized plan for change •Put your plan into action through gentle and gradual exposure to social situations Information about therapy, medications, and other resources is also included. After completing this program, you'll be well-equipped to make connections with the people around you. Soon, you'll be on your way to enjoying all the benefits of being actively involved in the social world. This book has been awarded The Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Seal of Merit — an award bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.
Overcoming Shyness is an easy-to-read, practical guide for breaking out of your shell and really living a life free of social anxiety. It's divided into two sections. The first section on mindset explores lifestyle changes, new ways of thinking, and using imagination for you instead of against you to expand your identity and know your true self. Journaling and psychological counseling are recommended as well as finding mentors and an online community, such as the author's. The second section on back pocket tips provides several tools and techniques, such as smiling, the ABCs of body language, the 3-foot rule, the 4 magic words to initiate a conversation and the key to maintaining it, active listening, and the secret sauce, that are guaranteed to get you out of your cramped shell and into the exciting world of social Interaction. The author writes from experience with compassion, wit, and insight so that you feel like you're having a heart-to-heart conversation with an understanding friend.
This is the first book ever written on how to overcome shyness and social anxiety... from the perspective of someone who has actually overcome these issues himself. Most of the "confidence" self-help books out there tell you useless advice like "fake it 'til you make it" or "just think about what's the worst that can happen." You won't find that garbage in this book. Instead, you'll learn specific, science-based techniques to quickly eliminate your shyness and social anxiety. The System Has 3 Parts: 1. The first part of the book explains the overall strategy for "rewiring your brain" to transform your personality to stop being shy, quiet and withdrawn. You'll finally be confident and comfortable in your own skin, even at parties and around the opposite sex. 2. The second part of the book reveals 3 techniques that allow you to almost instantly stop feeling anxious, nervous and tense in social situations. 3. The third part of the book shows you how to change the way you THINK so you don't feel insecure and self-conscious anymore. You also learn how to be more talkative and spontaneous... even if you've always had problems not knowing what to say in conversations. Some Reviews For The System: "As a clinical psychologist specializing in social anxiety and self-help systems, I was amazed at how well Sean has distilled many of the principles that can actually make a difference for those of us who battle social anxiety. Sean's information is straight to the point and focused on some of the most critical skills for managing shyness and anxiety." - Dr. Todd Snyder, Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Chicago "As a former shy, "invisible" guy myself, I find something fascinating in what Sean teaches in this program because you can tell he's been through it, he knows personally what it's like to have shyness and social anxiety, and he grasped how to beat it." - Eduard Ezeanu, Professional Communication Coach "I have only used your information for a short time, but I already notice I am more confident now. One specific situation was that I got the job in my last job interview, cause I was able to be more calm and confident."- Ask T. Borgen, 25, Musician Kongsberg, Norway "Up until 50 years old I knew something was wrong with me but did not know what it was. I was different from many other people and wondered why I couldn't socialize. It was about this time that I purchased Sean's Shyness and Social Anxiety Program. It helped a lot. Sean described what I went through very accurately. His section on how to have a conversation was the best part. At age 63, for the first time in my life, I went to someone's house to meet socially with a group of people." - John Kaye, 64, Stained Glass Artist "My biggest problems before were not knowing what to say to people and being too self conscious. Since reading your information, I've started improving my conversation skills and being more spontaneous. I can start conversations with people I never would have before. I have more confidence and am revealing myself more to people." - Anna, 17, Middlesbrough England "I was terribly shy. It was hard for me to make friends at school. I couldn't really talk to anyone but my teachers and when I would talk to people, I'd be very nervous and anxious. It's so much better now, like I don't know how much to thank you. Moving on to a newer school, I made new friends and they all love me for who I am. I talk a lot more now and even my family noticed and are happier with me." - Misha, Montreal Canada
Even though statisticians report that more than 37 million Americans suffer from diagnosable social phobia, common sense suggests that nearly all of us have, at one time or another, had clammy palms and knocking knees because of an intimidating, uncomfortable social situation. The party where you donít know a single soul, the crowded lobby of a movie theatre, the presentation youíve been dreading for weeks-any of these have the potential to ruin your week without necessarily sending you to the psychiatristís couch. The ten simple exercises in this book help you shed your shyness and start socializing with confidence and Èlan. 10 Simple Solutions to Shyness examines shyness by symptoms: physical discomfort, anxious thoughts, and bothersome behaviors. Solutions follow, directly addressing all three. You can carry the book in a briefcase or purse for last minute support and extra confidence. Once the ten simple solutions are learned, they will become your constant companions, providing courage, poise, and composure whenever you need them most.
Picking up where Quiet ended, How to Be Yourself is the best book you’ll ever read about how to conquer social anxiety. “This book is also a groundbreaking road map to finally being your true, authentic self.” —Susan Cain, New York Times, USA Today and nationally bestselling author of Quiet Up to 40% of people consider themselves shy. You might say you’re introverted or awkward, or that you're fine around friends but just can't speak up in a meeting or at a party. Maybe you're usually confident but have recently moved or started a new job, only to feel isolated and unsure. If you get nervous in social situations—meeting your partner's friends, public speaking, standing awkwardly in the elevator with your boss—you've probably been told, “Just be yourself!” But that's easier said than done—especially if you're prone to social anxiety. Weaving together cutting-edge science, concrete tips, and the compelling stories of real people who have risen above their social anxiety, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen proposes a groundbreaking idea: you already have everything you need to succeed in any unfamiliar social situation. As someone who lives with social anxiety, Dr. Hendriksen has devoted her career to helping her clients overcome the same obstacles she has. With familiarity, humor, and authority, Dr. Hendriksen takes the reader through the roots of social anxiety and why it endures, how we can rewire our brains through our behavior, and—at long last—exactly how to quiet your Inner Critic, the pesky voice that whispers, "Everyone will judge you." Using her techniques to develop confidence, think through the buzz of anxiety, and feel comfortable in any situation, you can finally be your true, authentic self.
Overcoming Shyness and Social Phobia provides a detailed program for eliminating social anxieties based on the latest cognitive behavioral treatments for social phobia. A Jason Aronson Book
Wouldn’t it be nice if you could just flick a switch and make your shyness go away? No more worrying about what others think about you, no more embarrassment in front of other people. You could just relax and feel comfortable and confident, the way you probably think everyone else feels. If you struggle with shyness, you’re all too familiar with the feeling of not knowing what to do or say, and you’ll do anything to avoid feeling that way. But, most likely, you also know that you’re missing out on a lot—friendships, potential relationships, and fun. You’ve chosen this book because you’re ready to stop hiding behind your shyness and start enjoying everything life has to offer. The worksheets and exercises in The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook for Teens will help you learn to handle awkward social situations with grace and confidence, so you can make real connections with people you want to get to know. Based in proven-effective cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), the skills you learn will also help you speak up for yourself when you need to and stop dreading class projects that put you on the spot. Actually, there’s no aspect of your life that this workbook won’t help. So why let shyness rule your life one day longer? Let this workbook guide the way to a more confident, outgoing you.
