Healing from Hidden Abuse takes the reader through the six stages of recovery that are necessary for individuals to find important answers to the life chaos they have experienced.
HE DRAWS YOU IN. HE DRAWS EVERYBODY IN. He is seductive and intoxicating. He has an unusual talent for ingratiating himself to others. He twists the truth and tells you what you want to hear but doesn’t follow through. He manipulates and deceives. He justifies his behavior. He appears to be a humble hero but, in fact, is self-absorbed with a need to control how others perceive him. But nobody else sees what you see. It is all so subtle. You are not even sure you are right about what you think you are seeing. You may be dealing with a charmer or a con artist. Con artists rob you of your time, energy, and money. Charmers are brilliant at disguising their abuse and can steal your youth, integrity, self-esteem, and even your very soul. Author and counselor Sandra Scott helps identify and distinguish between the two in her book, Hidden Abusers: Charmers & Con Artists. The book focuses on charmers and profiles case studies of these abusers, helping you discern threats to you in your relationships. From fictional characters, such as Scarlett O’Hara, to real-life scenarios, like O. J. Simpson, Scott provides profiles and gives insights into this abusive behavior. Hidden Abusers also includes a recovery plan on how to move from being a victim to a thriving survivor. Scott draws from the Twelve-Step Program and the Bible to help you become the whole person God designed you to be. Written for individuals and for church leaders and laypersons, Hidden Abusers is a valuable resource for recognizing abusers and for healing from the mental, emotional, and spiritual trauma left in their wake. If victims are not believed and validated, and don’t receive help, they are revictimized. They can be lost to the church.
This non-fiction book introduces readers to The Hidden Abuser who uses sneaky, subtle tactics which slowly introduce abuse into the relationship. In the beginning of the relationship, the tactics are so sneaky that they are very hard to recognize as abuse. However, overtime, these tactics become more severe and can progress to physical violence. In this book, you will learn to recognize the sneaky tactics that abusers use to keep you: under their control, stranded in the relationship, and guessing when they will explode next. You will also learn the red flags of an abusive relationship, how abusers think, how to leave an abusive relationship safely, and how to overcome the aftereffects of living in an abusive relationship. This book is written for anyone who has ever been in a toxic or abusive relationship. Often, what we tend to think of as "toxicity" is actually subtle, sneaky, abusive behavior. It is the goal of this book to teach these tactics so that toxic and abusive relationships can be avoided in the future. This book is written for you if: -You and your partner constantly argue-You are always choosing your battles wisely-You do considerably more work than your partner-Your partner is hypercritical or "nit-picky" of you-You find that your arguments tend to go in circles-Your relationship problems never get resolved-You are almost always the one to apologize-You are the peace keeper in the relationship-You question if your relationship is abusive-You have been assaulted by your partner-You have been in an abusive relationship in the past-You want to know how to avoid abusive relationships
"Am I the only one who sees this-am I just imagining things? Is something wrong with me ... or could this be abuse?" Maybe you don't know for sure: all you know is something feels off when you think about a certain relationship or interaction with an institution or organization. You feel alone and confused--but calling it "abuse" feels extreme and unsettling, a label for what happens to other people but not you. Yet you can't shake the feeling: something's not right. In his debut book, researcher and advocate Wade Mullen introduces us to the groundbreaking world of impression management--the strategies that individuals and organizations utilize to gain power and cover up their wrongdoings. Mullen reveals a pattern that accompanies many types of abuse, almost as if abusers are somehow reading from the same playbook. If we can learn to decode these evil methods--if we can learn the language of abuse--we can help stop the cycle and make abusers less effective at accomplishing destruction in our lives. Something's Not Right will help you to identify and describe tactics that were previously unidentifiable and indescribable, and give you the language you need to move toward freedom and create a safer future for yourself and others"--
An award-winning investigative journalist provides a disturbing new look at an underreported type of domestic violence—the abuse of men. The first edition of Philip W. Cook's book, Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence (Praeger, 1997), drew attention and praise nationwide from individuals and from media, ranging from CNN and Fox network's The O'Reilly Factor to scholarly publications such as The Journal of Marriage and Family. On the 10th anniversary of that groundbreaking book, Cook began revising and expanding his work. The result is this second edition—a disturbing look at a trend that continues to increase. The new edition of Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence offers up-to-date data on the prevalence of intimate partner violence against men, incorporating personal interviews and cases drawn from the media. It also includes updates on law, legislation, court activity, social responses, police activity, support groups, batterer programs, and crisis intervention programs. The final chapter contains a detailed and specific description of needed reforms in the current approach to intimate partner violence, whether the victims are male or female.
WINNER OF THE HILLMAN PRIZE FOR BOOK JOURNALISM, THE HELEN BERNSTEIN BOOK AWARD, AND THE LUKAS WORK-IN-PROGRESS AWARD * A NEW YORK TIMES TOP 10 BOOKS OF THE YEAR * NATIONAL BOOK CRITICS CIRCLE AWARD FINALIST * LOS ANGELES TIMES BOOK PRIZE FINALIST * ABA SILVER GAVEL AWARD FINALIST * KIRKUS PRIZE FINALIST NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF 2019 BY: Esquire, Amazon, Kirkus, Library Journal, Publishers Weekly, BookPage, BookRiot, Economist, New York Times Staff Critics “A seminal and breathtaking account of why home is the most dangerous place to be a woman . . . A tour de force.” -Eve Ensler "Terrifying, courageous reportage from our internal war zone." -Andrew Solomon "Extraordinary." -New York Times ,“Editors' Choice” “Gut-wrenching, required reading.” -Esquire "Compulsively readable . . . It will save lives." -Washington Post “Essential, devastating reading.” -Cheryl Strayed, New York Times Book Review An award-winning journalist's intimate investigation of the true scope of domestic violence, revealing how the roots of America's most pressing social crises are buried in abuse that happens behind closed doors. We call it domestic violence. We call it private violence. Sometimes we call it intimate terrorism. But whatever we call it, we generally do not believe it has anything at all to do with us, despite the World Health Organization deeming it a “global epidemic.” In America, domestic violence accounts for 15 percent of all violent crime, and yet it remains locked in silence, even as its tendrils reach unseen into so many of our most pressing national issues, from our economy to our education system, from mass shootings to mass incarceration to #MeToo. We still have not taken the true measure of this problem. In No Visible Bruises, journalist Rachel Louise Snyder gives context for what we don't know we're seeing. She frames this urgent and immersive account of the scale of domestic violence in our country around key stories that explode the common myths-that if things were bad enough, victims would just leave; that a violent person cannot become nonviolent; that shelter is an adequate response; and most insidiously that violence inside the home is a private matter, sealed from the public sphere and disconnected from other forms of violence. Through the stories of victims, perpetrators, law enforcement, and reform movements from across the country, Snyder explores the real roots of private violence, its far-reaching consequences for society, and what it will take to truly address it.
You can survive divorce and even thrive! Do you feel like you are emotionally bleeding but no hospital can make it stop? Like you are a dead woman walking? Like you'll never be able to climb your way out of this heavy, suffocating place? Know this: With Jesus, you'll make it out, and you'll be okay. Jen Grice had to stop fighting for a marriage that had been dead for years and then had to work through the trauma of divorce proceedings and life thereafter. It wasn't easy, just as your own struggle isn't. But now Jen is healing and whole, as you can be. In this book, Jen holds your hand as you walk through the pain. - See a way out of the darkness of divorce-into the light. - Discover a hope-filled, fully redeemed future ahead. - Find hope in a devastating time. There is no roadmap through this foreign territory we call divorce, but here are those who have gone before us to light the way. As Jen shares her personal healing story, she points out God's promises and His healing and protection that will help you not only survive this difficult time but eventually thrive.
This important book brings the ignored population of abused upper-income women to light, revealing for the first time the depth and severity of "upscale abuse" How is it possible for a highly educated woman with a career and resources of her own to stay in a marriage with an abusive husband? How can a man be considered a pillar of his community, run a successful business and regularly give his wife a black eye? That we can even ask these startling questions proves how convinced we are that domestic abuse is restricted to the lower classes. In "Not to People Like Us" psychotherapist Susan Weitzman dramatically challenges this assumption. It is the first book to explore a previously overlooked population of emotionally and physically battered wives-the upper-educated and upper-income women, who rarely report abuse and remain trapped by their own silence. Weitzman draws on an in-depth study to document the shocking nature and incidence of abuse among the wives of professors, physicians and CEOs-many of them professionals and executives themselves. With keen insight and profound sensitivity, she reveals the unique path taken by the upscale wife-the early warning signs, the dilemmas and decisions, the dangerous desire to cover up and maintain appearances. The first book to condemn the legal and social service system for failing to recognize domestic violence among upper-income families, "Not to People Like Us" offers crucial information to help women find their way out of abusive relationships and toward safety and independence.
In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship. He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about: • The early warning signs of abuse • The nature of abusive thinking • Myths about abusers • Ten abusive personality types • The role of drugs and alcohol • What you can fix, and what you can’t • And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely “This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health
BOOK 1: MIND CONTROL SECRETS, DARK PSYCHOLOGY AND BODY LANGUAGE Discover the Hidden Truth about NLP and Manipulation, Learn the Secret Psychological techniques to deal with Toxic People, Energy Thieves and Transform your Communication BOOK 2: NLP AND BODY LANGUAGE Learn the Art of Speed-Reading People in seconds. Discover the Secrets of Dark Psychology and Manipulation Techniques to influence people with Integrity.