This book shows how to use agreement to transform the biggest areas of marital conflict into closeness, cooperation, and mutually desirable outcomes. Licensed psychologist, marriage, and relationship coach Jack Ito PhD illustrates with clear, easy to follow examples, how to communicate about the biggest problems that couples face. These are the same techniques his coaching clients use to stop divorces, end affairs, deal with addicted spouses, solve problems, end blaming, improve dating, handle money issues, parent cooperatively, get out of debt, and more. This book is unique in offering communication training to couples when one spouse (or significant other) is not ready or willing to work on the relationship.
I know of no better guide for couples who genuinely desire a maturing relationship.M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled A remarkable bookthe most incisive and persuasive I have ever read on the knotty problems of marriage relationships. Ann Roberts, former president, Rockefeller Family Fund
LESS NEEDY IS MORE ATTRACTIVE Are you always trying to make your relationship better, but somehow only make your partner upset? Now you can put an end to your neediness and more easily get the love you want. This guide takes the struggle out of overcoming neediness. Using clear examples and down to earth explanations, you will quickly begin to experience closer relationships. And by overcoming neediness, you will become more confident and attractive. Whether you are single or married, you can . . . * Overcome neediness to improve dating success * Overcome neediness to prevent a breakup or divorce * Overcome neediness to be more attractive * Overcome neediness to be more confident and relaxed * Overcome neediness to get commitment from your partner * Overcome neediness to improve other relationships ...And Many More PLUS: Help your partner to overcome neediness JACK ITO, PH.D. (Coach Jack) is a licensed clinical psychologist, who works as a marriage and relationship coach and specializes in reconciling on the edge marriages. He believes that most people divorce not because their relationships can't be improved but because people don't know how to improve them. His teaching is based on the principle "when we change the way we relate to others; they change the way they relate to us." Coach Jack holds a doctorate in clinical psychology from Fuller Theological Seminary Graduate School of Psychology and has over 20 years of experience in the field of counseling and relationship coaching. A former clinical assistant professor of psychology at Geneva College in Beaver Falls, Pa., Coach Jack has also worked with the U.S. Navy, helping Marines cope with post traumatic stress and reconnecting with their spouses, post-deployment. He is the author of four books, "Overcome Neediness and Get the Love You Want," "What to do When He Won't Change," "Connecting Through Yes " and "Therapy Beyond All Expectations," published by Loving Solutions Publishing. For more information about Dr. Jack Ito and for free relationship articles, please visit www.coachjackito.com.
A New York Times Book Review Editors' Choice • A Good Morning America Recommended Book • A LitReactor Best Book of the Year • A BuzzFeed Most Anticipated Book of the Year • A Lit Hub Most Anticipated Book of the Year • A Rumpus Most Anticipated Book of the Year • A Bustle Most Anticipated Book of the Month "A pathbreaking feminist manifesto, impossible to put down or dismiss. Gina Frangello tells the morally complex story of her adulterous relationship with a lover and her shortcomings as a mother, and in doing so, highlights the forces that shaped, silenced, and shamed her: everyday misogyny, puritanical expectations regarding female sexuality and maternal sacrifice, and male oppression." —Adrienne Brodeur, author of Wild Game Gina Frangello spent her early adulthood trying to outrun a youth marked by poverty and violence. Now a long-married wife and devoted mother, the better life she carefully built is emotionally upended by the death of her closest friend. Soon, awakened to fault lines in her troubled marriage, Frangello is caught up in a recklessly passionate affair, leading a double life while continuing to project the image of the perfect family. When her secrets are finally uncovered, both her home and her identity will implode, testing the limits of desire, responsibility, love, and forgiveness. Blow Your House Down is a powerful testimony about the ways our culture seeks to cage women in traditional narratives of self-sacrifice and erasure. Frangello uses her personal story to examine the place of women in contemporary society: the violence they experience, the rage they suppress, the ways their bodies often reveal what they cannot say aloud, and finally, what it means to transgress "being good" in order to reclaim your own life.
Deborah Heneghan was fifteen when her seventeen-year-old sister died of cancer. A few weeks later, she woke in the middle of the night to a faint whisper summoning her. That was the beginning of Heneghan’s communication with her dead sister, one that continues to this day. In Closer Than You Think, Heneghan shows how she began to recognize the signs and messages from her sister. She shows readers how to get back in touch with deceased loved ones and find guidance and a helping hand from their big-picture perspective in the beyond. Filled with tips, tools, strategies, and stories to help the reader make contact, Closer Than You Think will give you hope, comfort and peace that your loved ones do ‘live on’ and are engaging you in a very real way. Readers learn how to connect and communicate with their deceased loved ones and remain close to them in a natural, healing way. Closer Than You Think shows how to: Recognize the signs, dreams, or other messages from your loved onesOpen the dialogue with your loved one for a lifetime of continued communicationTransform your anger and grief into hope and actionTune-in to healing guidance For anyone who has lost a loved one and is trying to develop a clearer connection with them, Closer Than You Think provides hope, comfort and peace that loved ones do live on and are engaging us in a very real way.
'A practical and timely book' - Arianna Huffington, Founder and CEO, Thrive Global 'Valuable for everyone' - Julia Samuel, bestselling author Biting your tongue? Bottling it all up? From marriage to management challenges, learn how to change your relationships from exasperating to exceptional with this expert guide. The ability to create strong relationships with others is crucial to living a full life and becoming more effective at work. Yet many of us find ourselves struggling to build solid personal and professional connections, or unable to handle challenges that inevitably arise when we grow closer to others. When we find ourselves in an exceptional relationship -- the kind of relationship where we feel fully understood and supported for who we are -- it can seem like magic. But the truth is that the process of building and sustaining these relationships can be described, learned, and applied. David Bradford and Carole Robin taught interpersonal skills to MBA candidates for a combined seventy-five years in their legendary Stanford Graduate School of Business course Interpersonal Dynamics. Now, they share their insights with you, including: - Why relationship-building is not the process of being with 'the right person' but rather creating the kind of relationship you want - Why deepening a relationship takes risk - The importance of vulnerability, curiosity and empathy in building relationships - How the modern world can help - and hinder - our ability to connect Filled with time-tested strategies for giving feedback, negotiating boundaries, and working through disagreements, Connect will be an important resource for anyone hoping to improve existing relationships and build new ones at any stage of life.
The most effective leaders know how to connect with people. It's not about power or popularity, but about making the people around you feel heard, comfortable, and understood. This book will teach you how to do that. While it may seem like some folks are born with a commanding presence that draws people in, the fact is anyone can learn to communicate in ways that consistently build powerful connections. Bestselling author and leadership expert John C. Maxwell offers advice for effective communication to those who continually run into obstacles when it comes to personal success. In Everyone Communicates, Few Connect, Maxwell shares five principles and five practices to develop connection skills including: Finding common ground Keeping your communication simple Capturing people’s interest Creating an experience everyone enjoys Staying authentic in all your relationships Your ability to achieve results in any organization is directly tied to the leadership skills in your toolbox. Connecting is an easy-to-learn skill you can apply today in your personal, professional, and family relationships to start living your best life.
Are You Married to Your Roommate . . . or Your Lover? Whether you’ve been married for six years or six decades, you may wake up one day to discover that the person sleeping next to you has become a stranger. Between work, kids, financial woes, and the busyness of everyday living, your marriage may feel like it’s on life support. You and your spouse love each other, but you’re both barely hanging on. How do you find your way back? How do you reconnect with your spouse and capture all that marriage is intended to be? Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley understand. Despite being hailed as marriage experts, they found themselves living more like roommates than lovers. Through intentional work, they fought their way back, and you can too. In Reconnected, they’ll walk alongside you and your spouse as you learn to reconnect by: Sharing life-giving communicationDreaming together about your futureRekindling romance and passionEmbracing your individuality while coming together as a coupleTransforming your life from one of busyness to one of connection Take your marriage from surviving to thriving. Reconnect with your first love.
Describes a method of negotiation that isolates problems, focuses on interests, creates new options, and uses objective criteria to help two parties reach an agreement.
