NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Over a million copies sold! “An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent—and long-lasting—marriage.”—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.
Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.
The "Best Relationship Book of 2008" is now in paperback Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz's award-winning book reveals how to sustain a long-term loving marriage. In addition to exploring the seven key ingredients that define a successful marriage—togetherness, truthfulness, respect and kindness, staying fit, joint finances, tactile communication, and surprise and unpredictability—the authors have included hundreds of insightful and practical interviews with happy couples. Focuses on what's right about a successful relationship, rather than what's wrong Written by a popular and very active couple known as "the marriage doctors," who lead lectures, training, workshops, and other events every week all over the country Contains candid interviews with a diverse collection of happily married couples from around the world This book offers a positive, upbeat approach to living happily ever after.
This book is for any couple who has tied the knot or who is tied up in knots.If I marry the right person, I'll live happily ever after...Far too many people are deceived by this common myth about marriage only to wake up to a different reality.Having a great marriage isn¿t about being lucky enough to and the right mate. You don¿t just happen to find a great marriage; you build one. A happy marriage is something you build on purpose, and building a strong, fulfilling relationship with your spouse is a lifelong process.Marriage is the most intimate relationship possible. It¿s two people choosing to be together for the rest of their lives. In order to build a marriage that will stand the test of time, you need the right tools ¿ skills most of us got married without. Fortunately, as the old saying goes, ¿It¿s never too late to learn!¿ The principles in this book will give you and your spouse the tools you need from God¿s Word to build a great marriage, and make a life together worth remembering.
“The most credible and interesting marital self-help book of all time.”—Newsweek Editor of The Washington Post's Wellness Department and former New York Times columnist Tara Parker-Pope is one of the most popular and e-mailed journalists in the nation. In this eye-opening—and ultimately optimistic—look at marriage today, Parker-Pope reveals the heart behind the statistics to bust the myths and share the true secrets to marital happiness. Among her surprising findings: • most marriages today are succeeding • newlywed couples who don't fight are at a higher risk for divorce than those who do • how couples divide household chores influences how often they have sex Whatever their stage of life or marital status, readers will be fascinated and buoyed by this classic in the making.
When it first appeared in 1995, The Good Marriage became a best-seller. It offers timeless clues to the secret of happy, long-lasting marriages. Based on a groundbreaking study of fifty couples who consider themselves happily married, psychologist Judith Wallerstein presents the four basic types of marriage — romantic, rescue, companionate, and traditional — and identifies nine developmental tasks that must be successfully undertaken in a “good marriage” — separation from the family of origin, up-and-down vicissitudes of early years, children, balance of work and home, dealing with infidelities, and more. The men and women Wallerstein interviewed readily admit that even the best relationship requires hard work and continuing negotiation, especially in the midst of societal pressures that can tear marriages apart. But they also convey an inspirational message, for almost all of them feel that their marriage is their single greatest accomplishment. The Good Marriage explains why, and its lively mix of storytelling and analysis will challenge every couple to think in a profoundly different way about the most important relationship in their lives. “Should be required reading for all who are interested in marriage.” — W. Walter Menninger “Should prove a lifesaver for many couples.” — Publishers Weekly “Will enrich the sparse literature on happy marriages.” — USA Today “One of the nice things about The Good Marriage is its modesty. It doesn’t pretend to offer a philosophy or even a lecture on marriage. It takes no position on the ideologically charged issues of women’s marital roles and status. Equally important, it ignores the two most common ways of talking about marriage — as a contract negotiated between two equal parties and as the pathway to individual fulfillment. For this reason it is refreshingly free of ‘rights’ talk and therapy talk. Indeed, Wallerstein places much more emphasis on the development of good judgment and a moral sense than on the acquisition of effective communication or negotiation skills.” — Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, The Atlantic “A lagniappe to enduring couplehood... The strength of this study is that Ms. Wallerstein, a gifted interviewer, persuades the couples to reveal their interior lives in rich, explicit detail.” — Susan Jacoby, The New York Times Book Review “Written in a masterful style that often reads like the best popular fiction... Wallerstein and Blakeslee again combine their substantial talents... deftly and entertainingly exploring the foundations of good marriages.” — Tara Aronson, San Francisco Examiner & Chronicle “Groundbreaking.” — Boston Globe “This is a wonderfully readable and immensely valuable book, full of wise and original insights about the many, many roads to marital happiness.” — Judith Viorst “With wisdom, humor, and sympathetic understanding, Judith Wallerstein helps us recognize and rediscover the good marriage... lucid, psychologically sophisticated, and generously wise.” — David Blankenhorn, Newsday “Historically informative as well as profoundly wise psychologically.” — Joan M. Erikson “For a long time, as a Rabbi, I’ve been using The Good Marriage, by the late Judith Wallerstein... in my pre-marital counseling. She provides... amazingly helpful insights [which] open up conversations and lead couples to think much more deeply about what they are getting themselves into — and what they might need to do to keep their marriages strong.” — Rabbi Carl M. Perkins “A welcome addition to the field of literature on contemporary marriage... The style [is] clear, concise, sensitive and, occasionally, personal. Her personal additions... add warmth, emotional consciousness, and greater insight into what makes individuals and couples happy in their relationships. This book has value for the many audiences interested in relational theory that want to approach relationships from a realistic and positive perspective.” — Nancy Williford, Clinical Social Work Journal “In The Good Marriage, Wallerstein’s new study of 50 married couples offers affirmation that the process of marriage itself presents a vehicle for transformation... A best-selling author, Wallerstein employs a thoughtful, nonaggressive style that appeals to the general public. Wallerstein has performed an invaluable service in The Good Marriage.” — Elizabeth M. Tully, M.D., Journal of Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry “Solid... impressive... Those interested in social policy should be pleased that so well-respected a liberal academic as Ms. Wallerstein has written a book that celebrates marriage and points the way toward restructuring it.” — Wall Street Journal “With extraordinary skill and compassion Wallerstein and Blakeslee take us inside the lives of fifty American couples and find that a good marriage still provides the best framework for enduring love and intimacy.” — Sylvia Ann Hewlett “A very appealing book... clearly written and clearly thought out.” — Library Journal “Wallerstein’s major contribution is not about how and why love lasts, but about how and why love develops. It is in such a context, less idyllic, but more realistic, that the book will prove to be a lasting contribution.” — Readings: A Journal of Reviews and Commentary in Mental Health
How to adjust to married life, build a strong foundation, and survive your first year of marriage. - EVEN if you don’t know where to start. Do you feel overwhelmed and completely unprepared for marriage? Are you worried about failing in your marriage, second-guessing your decision to even get married, or considering a divorce? Do you want to have the best marriage you possibly can, but not sure where to start? You are not alone. It is easy to feel like you are the only newlywed struggling with married life; the frustrations, sadness, hopelessness, silent treatment, name calling, anxiety, disagreements, anger, disappointments, coping with new behavior discoveries, wondering if this is what marriage is supposed to be like, etc. We know how you feel because we experienced these struggles after getting married too. We have also listened to great married couples share their first year of marriage struggles on our podcast, The First Year Marriage Show, and countless others. So, we understand the problems you are facing and want to help you have a better marriage. To be honest, the first year of marriage is the hardest year for most married couples. However, you can avoid the marriage problems newlyweds face every single day by reading this guide for newlyweds and engaged couples today. We strongly believe this book will change your marriage. Because the lessons come from our own first-hand experience and gleaned knowledge. We share our struggles and how we overcame adversity to build a strong foundation for the healthy, happy, and fulfilling marriage we have today. In this First Year of Marriage book, you will learn: 1. How to transform your mindset from I into We. 2. How to build a safe environment for your marriage, so you can express your feelings and opinions without feeling judged. 3. Our simple and proven communication strategies have helped many couples to communicate better. 4. Get a better idea of what is at the root of the issues troubling your marriage, and how to fix them. 5. The glue that holds your marriage together and what we did after one of us changed our faith. 6. How to be independent and interdependent without losing your identity. 7. How to connect and grow together as a couple. 8. Why it is important to create a vision for your marriage, and the four steps we used to create a vision our marriage. 9. Why your first year of marriage is critical to the success of your marriage. And much more. This is the book that we wished was out there when we first got married. If you are a newlywed, just got engaged, looking to remarry or improve your marriage, this indispensable guide is for you. Filled with ideas you can apply immediately to your marriage. Marriage counselors, coaches, educators, pastors, and wedding officiants can also use this book for premarital counseling. You can have the satisfying marriage you both desire. Marriage does not have to be hard. Practice everything we share in this newlyweds guide with your spouse, and you will both be heading towards a happy, healthy, and fulfilling marriage. If you like reading books that are practical, easy to read, and straightforward. Books you can instantly apply what you learn to your life, then you will enjoy reading this guide for newlyweds. More importantly, read this book with your spouse, discuss the questions, and complete the workbook together. Then apply everything you learn to your marriage. You wouldn't build a million-dollar home on a weak foundation. Why would you consider the same for your marriage? Get your copy of this marriage book today. -------- Keywords related to this newlywed's book: Marriage books, books for newlyweds, newlyweds guide, newlyweds book, relationship books, marriage books, newlyweds marriage book, books for couples, marriage help books, relationship help books, books for couples, books for married couples, dating books, books for engaged couples, engaged couples, newlywed engaged couples, getting married books, premarital counseling books, before marriage books,
"Formula for a Successful Marriage" is a blueprint to build a solid foundation for your marriage. Discussed are essential elements needed to achieve a harmonious marriage. The formula was conceived by the Holy Spirit and given to Pastor DesireE Andrews to pass on to those seeking to improve or maintain a God-filled, God-ordained, successful marriage. In this book, you will discover the essential ingredients to accomplish just that. The formula, C4H2L, is comprised of four parts C--commitment, communication, companionship, and copulation; two parts H--honesty and hugs; and one part L--love, all of which are necessary for a fruitful marriage. God ordained marriage and intended for it to be a blessed union between one man and one woman. Society today has all but outlawed what constitutes a successful marriage from God's perspective. The implementation of this formula builds back that which was lost. With two things being a given in marriage, God and prayer, the C4H2L formula acts to bind the husband and wife together in marriage. Many marriages fail because one thing or another is neglected and goes lacking for extended periods of time. Society says it's okay to give up on your marriage and go be with someone else, but the Word tells us what God has joined together let no man put asunder. The formula, therefore, aids in keeping things in balance to ensure nothing is overlooked, nothing is neglected, nothing is lacking. It is not a cure-all solution but are the building blocks needed for a successful marriage. If we hold to the biblical principles established from the beginning of time we do well in maintaining and improving the marital relationship. If we do it God's way, we will succeed. This book will help identify that which was from the beginning and guide the reader to a meaningful, healthy, and successful marriage.
What makes marriages last? What makes couples happy? Is it possible for a so-so marriage to become a great one? From Dr. Terri Orbuch, the renowned therapist and nationally recognized relationship expert known as The Love Doctor®, comes a book that breaks new ground in marital relationships. The head researcher in a large-scale, unprecedented study funded by the National Institutes of Health—which has followed 373 couples for more than twenty-two years and is ongoing—Dr. Orbuch made some remarkable discoveries about happiness, sexuality, human mating patterns, and relationship longevity. In 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great, she releases the study’s findings to the public in a book for the first time, sharing her insights and never-before-revealed strategies for improving and enhancing your marriage—at every stage. Do you remember the feeling of first being in love? Based on the latest research about what works in happy marriages, Dr. Orbuch offers an accessible, step-by-step roadmap for reconnecting with those feelings and gaining a deeper appreciation for the things you and your spouse share. She defines the five simple strategies to help couples navigate the daily minefield of marriage…from defusing frustrations that erode your relationship to the simple things that will keep your partner happy…from the 10-minute rule to help you really get to know your spouse to reducing boredom and weeding out unprofitable behaviors. Filled with exercises, check lists, and some surprising statistics, 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great will help you bring happiness, joy and fulfillment to the most important relationship of your life. From the Hardcover edition.
When a marriage is new, it’s exciting. But as time passes, couples can drift apart and wrestle with the challenges that are common in any marriage. It can feel overwhelming, but together, couples will find that a healthy marriage has thousands of course changes. In this follow-up to Getting Ready for Marriage, authors Jim Burns and Doug Fields offer a practical guide designed to help newlyweds build a strong foundation for a marriage that will last a lifetime. Along with explaining the traits of a healthy marriage, The First Few Years of Marriage helps couples rekindle romance, fight fair, and deal with stress, the challenges of the first baby, and much more. This easy-to-read book gives married couples everything they need to go the distance together.
