This is not a book that explains what BDSM is, this is a book that explains what BDSM is all about. This is a book for people who are considering stepping into real time BDSM, and it is also a book for people who have been involved in the community for a while. This book treats the world of BDSM as a culture unto itself and goes a long way to explaining the expectations, rules, and words that are common to this culture. This book does not tell you how to use any implements (floggers, canes, etc), but it does explain why in the world you'd want to use such implements. This is a must-have resource book for your kink library.
This is the second book in the BDSM Mastery series. While the first book oriented readers to play, parties, and scene protocols, this book addresses Dominant/submissive relationships. What, you might ask, are "BDSM Relationships?" These are "adventuresome" relationships. Relationships that are not exactly like vanilla relationships. BDSM relationships differ in two specific ways from your typical vanilla relationship: first, they usually involve a power-imbalanced structure (one person is clearly in charge and the other person is clearly following); second, the kind of sex that adventuresome folks practice is, well, not vanilla. I wrote this book to help you better to understand the power dynamics that get involved with what are called power-imbalanced relationships (usually referred to as Dominant/submissive or D/s relationships).
Whether you're a trembling novice or a jaded expert, there's always something new to be discovered in the endlessly changing, complex and titillating world of kink. While there are plenty of other books out there that explain how to give a spanking or tie a half-hitch, Playing Well With Others is the first book that explains kink *culture* -- the munches, parties, leather bars, conferences, workshops, fetish nights, exploratoriums and all the other gatherings of kinksters that turn BDSM and leather from a bedroom predilection to a lifestyle and a community. You'll learn to: • Examine your own motivations, needs, wants and desires • Ease your way into established communities • Understand etiquette in different adventurous sex communities • Familiarize yourself with the many types of events available to you • Care for your relationships as you explore new territory • Negotiate for play and aftercare • Go back to the “world at large” without ruffling feathers • ...and, of course, answer the all-important question: What do you wear?! The team of Harrington and Williams offers 30-plus years of experience in diverse kink communities: top, bottom and switch; gay, bi and straight; female, male and trans; white and POC. Both former titleholders and international educators, they are an unbeatable pair of "sexual sherpas" with an inimitable voice and a great deal of wisdom. Playing Well With Others is an unprecedented and essential guidebook for anyone who wants to explore or understand the "community" aspect of the kink lifestyle.
In this lively ethnography, Weiss studies the pansexual BDSM community in the San Francisco Bay Area. Weiss finds that BDSM practice is not as transgressive as the participants imagine, nor is it simply reinforcing of older forms of social domination. Instead she shows how fantasy play depends on pre-existing social hierarchies, even as it also participates in a commodification of desires.
Exploring BDSM: A Workbook for Couples (or More) Discovering Kink will walk you through eight popular categories of kink, encouraging you to explore each one as you go. Fill out checklists with your partner and get advice on crafting scenes using your compatible kinks. Learn about effective communication in BDSM as you review each scene you've tried. Explore different areas of BDSM: Bondage Impact & Pain Play Sensation Play Role Play Sexuality & Sexual Taboo Protocols & Power Exchange Humiliation Play Taboo & Edge Play Get advice on how to explore your kinky fantasies and craft amazing scenes from Kink Educator, Lifestyle and Professional Dominant Morgan Thorne. She shares personal stories, safety information as well as tips to make your explorations thrilling and fulfilling.
About this book: A servant serves Master's needs or is fired; A slave serves Master's wants or is released. However, Master's wants must not trump slave's needs, Even when playing by RACK standards. slave is in service to Master; However, Master is in service to the relationship. Welcome to the complex and elegant World of Master/slave relations. This is a revised and substantially expanded version of my prior book, Master/slave Relations: Handbook of theory and practice. Even if you've read that one, this is substantially different. This is a book both for people starting out in M/s and also for people who have been involved for a few years. The second book in this series, Master/slave Mastery: Refining the Fire - ideas that matter is intended for those who have been involved with the Master/slave world for 5+ years. Together, these books are core readings for anyone interested in living in a structured, authority-imbalanced relationship.
Are you a frustrated Dom? Have you tried to be the best Dom possible but can’t seem to find any subs? Do your sessions end prematurely? Are you not quite sure what you’re doing wrong or how to start setting up programs for a sub that wants emotional healing? You’ve come to the right place! Continuing our line of BDSM education books, we’ve compiled a list of tips that we call “Troubleshooting Tips”, especially made for Doms who are stuck in a circle of inactivity. Your subs may complain that you’re too aggressive or too nice, or maybe that you just don’t understand. The problem is not necessarily with you or your attitude. Usually it’s because you haven’t been formally trained on how to DIRECT a sub towards a progressive plan of action. It is your job to train a sub, explain the punishments and rewards, and transform her thinking. No Dom has ever started off a complete natural. Everyone needs training and additional tips for turning their intermediate knowledge into professional / expert level understanding. In "Mastering The Art of Dominance," you will learn: - How to attract subs (even if you’ve been unsuccessful in the past) - How to avoid mentally disturbed subs before it’s too late - How to turn your friend-with-benefits into a sub - How to identify troubled subs who can be helped and how to help them - How to manage multiple subs and multiple partners with fellow Doms - How to deal with jealousy and rivalries with multiple subs - And much more... By the time you finish this book, you’re going to be ready to be a top of your class Dom!
In The Dominance Playbook, kink educator and lifelong power exchange fanatic Anton Fulmen builds on the fundamentals he established in The Heart of Dominance to explore beyond the basics of dominance and submission in both scenes and relationships. The Playbook includes inspiration and practical advice for a wide range of power exchange practices: administering effective punishments, providing useful service, navigating the delicate territory of sexual objectification, and other fulfilling but sometimes tricky areas of kink. You'll find invaluable guidance for creating an intense evening of power exchange play, and also for weaving power exchange into the fabric of a long term relationship - in ways that are exciting, fulfilling and sustainable for everyone.
Light-hearted and fun to read, SCREW THE ROSES, SEND IN THE THORNS tells readers everything they need (and want!) to know about sadomasochism. Deeply committed to the blend of trust, fantasy and sensuality that makes S/M an intensely erotic and deeply intimate experience, Miller and Devon here offer everyone - from the complete novice to the well-practised sub or dom - clear explanations, solid advice, safety measures and steamy suggestions. Illustrated with over 225 photos and illustrations, the book also includes a glossary and 30-page resources listing.
