The Art of Asking

The Art of Asking

Author: Amanda Palmer

Publisher: Grand Central Publishing

Published: 2014-11-11

Total Pages: 224

ISBN-13: 1455581070

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FOREWORD BY BRENE BROWN and POSTSCRIPT FROM BRAIN PICKINGS CREATOR MARIA POPOVA Rock star, crowdfunding pioneer, and TED speaker Amanda Palmer knows all about asking. Performing as a living statue in a wedding dress, she wordlessly asked thousands of passersby for their dollars. When she became a singer, songwriter, and musician, she was not afraid to ask her audience to support her as she surfed the crowd (and slept on their couches while touring). And when she left her record label to strike out on her own, she asked her fans to support her in making an album, leading to the world's most successful music Kickstarter. Even while Amanda is both celebrated and attacked for her fearlessness in asking for help, she finds that there are important things she cannot ask for-as a musician, as a friend, and as a wife. She learns that she isn't alone in this, that so many people are afraid to ask for help, and it paralyzes their lives and relationships. In this groundbreaking book, she explores these barriers in her own life and in the lives of those around her, and discovers the emotional, philosophical, and practical aspects of THE ART OF ASKING. Part manifesto, part revelation, this is the story of an artist struggling with the new rules of exchange in the twenty-first century, both on and off the Internet. THE ART OF ASKING will inspire readers to rethink their own ideas about asking, giving, art, and love.


How to Get What You Want Without Having To Ask

How to Get What You Want Without Having To Ask

Author: Richard Templar

Publisher: Pearson UK

Published: 2012-09-07

Total Pages: 167

ISBN-13: 0273751026

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In this clever book, bestselling author Richard Templar delivers a collection of principles, tactics and techniques that will make sure things always go your way, without you even having to ask. You’ll discover the secrets of being the kind of person who gets what they want, and the secrets of making it easy for people to say yes to you (sometimes without even realising they are doing it). And for those rare occasions where you really do have to ask, you’ll find priceless advice on exactly what to say and how to say it, so that you’ll definitely never have to ask twice.


Ask For It

Ask For It

Author: Linda Babcock

Publisher: Bantam

Published: 2009-01-27

Total Pages: 339

ISBN-13: 0553384554

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From the authors of Women Don’t Ask, the groundbreaking book that revealed just how much women lose when they avoid negotiation, here is the action plan that women all over the country requested—a guide to negotiating anything effectively using strategies that feel comfortable to you as a woman. Whether it’s a raise, that overdue promotion, an exciting new assignment, or even extra help around the house, this four-phase program, backed by years of research and practical success, will show you how to recognize how much more you really deserve, maximize your bargaining power, develop the best strategy for your situation, and manage the reactions and emotions that may arise—on both sides. Guided step-by-step, you’ll learn how to draw on your special strengths to reach agreements that benefit everyone involved. This collaborative, problem-solving approach will propel you to new places both professionally and personally—and open doors you thought were closed.


Ask!

Ask!

Author: Mark Victor Hansen

Publisher: Post Hill Press

Published: 2020-04-28

Total Pages: 0

ISBN-13: 9781642934953

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Your dreams become your destiny when you learn the secret art of asking! Most people have beautiful dreams deep inside—the things they would like to have, the relationships they’d love to enjoy, and the wellness and well-being that would help them express their best, in every way. But often those dreams lie buried inside us. Hidden by fear or unworthiness or a lack of awareness of what could be. Asking is the only language to which the Universe can deliver a solution, understanding, illumination, or plan. There are three distinct channels through which we can ask: Ask Yourself Ask Others Ask God You were born with a destiny. Your job is to discover it. Once you begin to practice the art and science of asking to discover your destiny and start to move toward it, you can manifest innumerable blessings for yourself and others. This isn’t a complicated process; in fact, it’s a simple gift that lies dormant within you. Once you learn to access that gift, everything changes for the better. Ask! will help you access your hidden dreams and reveal them to be recognized and fulfilled in miraculous ways. You matter. The world needs you to find your destiny and live it. This book is your guide. Start crossing the bridge to your destiny today!


You Can Get Anything You Want

You Can Get Anything You Want

Author: Roger Dawson

Publisher: Simon & Schuster

Published: 1987

Total Pages: 238

ISBN-13: 9780671634391

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"Roger Dawson shows you how to become a good negotiator not just in business deals but in day-to-day life. To get what you want, Dawson believes you have to understand and be comfortable with the three stages of every negotiation. You Can Get Anything You Want teaches you those stages: Clarify the objectives -- find out exactly what the other side wants; Get as much information as you can about the other party -- what motivation lies behind his demands? Reach an agreement -- make compromises until a mutually satisfactory conclusion is achieved. Dawson will teach you crucial tactics to ensure that your negotiations are successful: Recognize the value of time so you're not pressured into last-minute decisions. Never jump at the first offer, no matter how good it looks. Know your opponent so you can use his weakness to your advantage. Always negotiate back and forth so the other side feels like a winner. Be prepared to walk away instead of conceding, so you leave the door open for the next round. You Can Get Anything You Want will show you how to recognize and adjust to different personality styles so you can get what you want regardless of the situation" -- Backcover.


Ask a Manager

Ask a Manager

Author: Alison Green

Publisher: Ballantine Books

Published: 2018-05-01

Total Pages: 306

ISBN-13: 0399181822

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From the creator of the popular website Ask a Manager and New York’s work-advice columnist comes a witty, practical guide to 200 difficult professional conversations—featuring all-new advice! There’s a reason Alison Green has been called “the Dear Abby of the work world.” Ten years as a workplace-advice columnist have taught her that people avoid awkward conversations in the office because they simply don’t know what to say. Thankfully, Green does—and in this incredibly helpful book, she tackles the tough discussions you may need to have during your career. You’ll learn what to say when • coworkers push their work on you—then take credit for it • you accidentally trash-talk someone in an email then hit “reply all” • you’re being micromanaged—or not being managed at all • you catch a colleague in a lie • your boss seems unhappy with your work • your cubemate’s loud speakerphone is making you homicidal • you got drunk at the holiday party Praise for Ask a Manager “A must-read for anyone who works . . . [Alison Green’s] advice boils down to the idea that you should be professional (even when others are not) and that communicating in a straightforward manner with candor and kindness will get you far, no matter where you work.”—Booklist (starred review) “The author’s friendly, warm, no-nonsense writing is a pleasure to read, and her advice can be widely applied to relationships in all areas of readers’ lives. Ideal for anyone new to the job market or new to management, or anyone hoping to improve their work experience.”—Library Journal (starred review) “I am a huge fan of Alison Green’s Ask a Manager column. This book is even better. It teaches us how to deal with many of the most vexing big and little problems in our workplaces—and to do so with grace, confidence, and a sense of humor.”—Robert Sutton, Stanford professor and author of The No Asshole Rule and The Asshole Survival Guide “Ask a Manager is the ultimate playbook for navigating the traditional workforce in a diplomatic but firm way.”—Erin Lowry, author of Broke Millennial: Stop Scraping By and Get Your Financial Life Together


Ask Outrageously!

Ask Outrageously!

Author: Linda Swindling

Publisher: Berrett-Koehler Publishers

Published: 2017-06-05

Total Pages: 241

ISBN-13: 1523082720

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Are you asking for what you want or just taking what you are given? Chances are, it s the latter. Linda Swindling will teach you how to ask outrageously and get the results you want."


Find Out Anything From Anyone, Anytime

Find Out Anything From Anyone, Anytime

Author: James O. Pyle

Publisher: Red Wheel/Weiser

Published: 2014-01-20

Total Pages: 232

ISBN-13: 1601634935

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“A new book by an army intelligence interrogator could help you get the answers to your most pressing questions.” —Time The secret to finding out anything you want to know is amazingly simple: Ask good questions. Most people trip through life asking bad questions—of teachers, friends, coworkers, clients, prospects, experts, and suspects. Even people trained in questioning, such as journalists and lawyers, commonly ask questions that get partial or misleading answers. People in any profession will immediately benefit by developing the skill and art of good questioning. Find Out Anything From Anyone, Anytime will give you the power to: Identify and practice good questioning techniques Recognize types of questions to avoid Know the questions required when hearing unconfirmed reports or gossip Practice good listening techniques and exploit all leads Determine when and how to control the conversation Gain real expertise fast Within professional interrogation circles, author James Pyle is known as a strategic debriefer—meaning there is no one around him more skilled at asking questions and getting answers. He has been training other interrogators in questioning techniques since 1989. “With his style of questioning alone, Jim Pyle can get more information than most other interrogators using multiple techniques.” —Gregory Hartley, co-author of How to Spot a Liar


The First 20 Hours

The First 20 Hours

Author: Josh Kaufman

Publisher: Penguin

Published: 2013-06-13

Total Pages: 290

ISBN-13: 1101623047

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Forget the 10,000 hour rule— what if it’s possible to learn the basics of any new skill in 20 hours or less? Take a moment to consider how many things you want to learn to do. What’s on your list? What’s holding you back from getting started? Are you worried about the time and effort it takes to acquire new skills—time you don’t have and effort you can’t spare? Research suggests it takes 10,000 hours to develop a new skill. In this nonstop world when will you ever find that much time and energy? To make matters worse, the early hours of prac­ticing something new are always the most frustrating. That’s why it’s difficult to learn how to speak a new language, play an instrument, hit a golf ball, or shoot great photos. It’s so much easier to watch TV or surf the web . . . In The First 20 Hours, Josh Kaufman offers a systematic approach to rapid skill acquisition— how to learn any new skill as quickly as possible. His method shows you how to deconstruct com­plex skills, maximize productive practice, and remove common learning barriers. By complet­ing just 20 hours of focused, deliberate practice you’ll go from knowing absolutely nothing to performing noticeably well. Kaufman personally field-tested the meth­ods in this book. You’ll have a front row seat as he develops a personal yoga practice, writes his own web-based computer programs, teaches himself to touch type on a nonstandard key­board, explores the oldest and most complex board game in history, picks up the ukulele, and learns how to windsurf. Here are a few of the sim­ple techniques he teaches: Define your target performance level: Fig­ure out what your desired level of skill looks like, what you’re trying to achieve, and what you’ll be able to do when you’re done. The more specific, the better. Deconstruct the skill: Most of the things we think of as skills are actually bundles of smaller subskills. If you break down the subcompo­nents, it’s easier to figure out which ones are most important and practice those first. Eliminate barriers to practice: Removing common distractions and unnecessary effort makes it much easier to sit down and focus on deliberate practice. Create fast feedback loops: Getting accu­rate, real-time information about how well you’re performing during practice makes it much easier to improve. Whether you want to paint a portrait, launch a start-up, fly an airplane, or juggle flaming chain­saws, The First 20 Hours will help you pick up the basics of any skill in record time . . . and have more fun along the way.


Reinforcements

Reinforcements

Author: Heidi Grant

Publisher: Harvard Business Press

Published: 2018-06-12

Total Pages: 208

ISBN-13: 1633692361

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Humans have a natural instinct to help others. Imagine walking up to a stranger on the subway and asking them for their seat. What about asking a random person on the street if you could borrow their phone? If the idea makes you squeamish, you're not alone--social psychologists have found that doing these very things makes most of us almost unbearably uncomfortable. But here's the funny thing: even though we hate to ask for help, most people are wired to be helpful. And that's a good thing, because every day in the modern, uber-collaborative workplace, we all need to know when and how to call in the cavalry. However, asking people for help isn't intuitive; in fact, a lot of our instincts are wrong. As a result, we do a poor job of calling in the reinforcements we need, leaving confused or even offended colleagues in our wake. This pragmatic book explains how to get it right. With humor, insight, and engaging storytelling, Heidi Grant, PhD, describes how to elicit helpful behavior from your friends, family, and colleagues--in a way that leaves them feeling genuinely happy to lend a hand. Whether you're a first-time manager or a seasoned leader, getting people to pitch in is what leadership is. Fortunately, people have a natural instinct to help other human beings; you just need to know how to channel this urge into what it is you specifically need them to do. It's not manipulation. It's just management.